Post # 1
So I handmade all of my invitations and after consulting several sources decided to list only my parents since they are paying for the majority of it and everything else is being covered by my fiancé and myself. Now that the invitations are out my fiancé is getting angry messages from his family who are upset that his mother was not listed on the invitation. She has contributed nothing to the wedding, though she is paying for the reheral dinner. Did we do wrong in not including her name, or are they overreacting? Also what should our response be to people who are upset over this?
Post # 3
as long as his actual mother doesn’t care, I don’t see how it’s your problem. as for dealing with it – well, i hope you can make it! Dont forget to RSVP!
Post # 4
My parents are paying for the wedding and his parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner. We just put my parents’ names on the invitation and I believe this is the correct etiquette. The rehearsal dinner is a separate event and her name can go on those invitations if she chooses to have invitations.
Post # 5
I know sometimes people write the invite like Mr and Mrs X invite you to the wedding of their daughter, Bride and Groom, son of Ms. Y but that’s not required. The invites are out, so I’d say what’s done is done. If she’s paying for the rehearsal dinner, she gets her name on those, right?
Post # 6
ours isn’t traditional at all. it says son of parents name daughter of parents name… nothing like mr. and mrs. invite you to
Post # 7
Invitations are typically sent by those who are actually hosting the event. It would be improper to have his mom’s name on the wedding invitation, unless it was the ‘….son of Ms. XYZ’ wording mentioned above. If you are sending invites for the rehearsal dinner, I would absolutely put her name as the host of that event.
If people call, and you feel like you must give them some sort of answer, politely tell them that is it your parents hosting the event (I wouldn’t mention money) and that is why only their names were listed.
Post # 8
I think you used the correct wording for your invitations. Your parents are hosting, so they are named on the invitation. FI and I aare paying for our wedding without help from any parents. You better believe we are the only ones whose names are going on the invitations. If your FMIL wants her name on an invitation, she can have them printed for the rehersal dinner she is hosting.