Post # 1
OK, so my fiance and i decided on the wording of our invitation, given that we are both over the age of 35 and we are the ones paying for the wedding we opt not to mention our parents names in the invitation.
Mrs. So & So requesting the pleasure of your company……
We instead just wrote our names and request that they join us.
WE now have family members who are offended that we are not using our parent names,
I don’t know what else to do. I feel like calling this whole thing off. It seems that every decision i make on this planning is wrong.
I am fed up.
Post # 3
If you are paying for the wedding yourselves then your wording is correct.
It’s so annoying when everyone is questining all of your choices but really you have to remember this is your special day and who cares if they don’t like something or another? It’s your day!
If they get offended, tell them that’s the correct wording and to get off your back. Try to put it a little sweeter than that, lol.
Post # 4
@ashron: I am also not including the names of our parents on our invitations. My fiance and I are completely paying for the wedding ourselves, and from what I understand, you’re supposed to include those who are contributing to the costs of the wedding on the invitation as a way of thanking them for doing so.
Some people are just sticklers for these types of rules even if they don’t serve any real purpose… in my opinion the inclusion of parents’ names is irrelevant if they aren’t contributing. They aren’t the ones getting married, you and your fiance are independent of them – so why do they need to be listed?
My two cents… I’m not an expert on these things. 🙂 Just don’t let these people get you down!
Post # 5
First off, I agree that since you’re paying, you can word the invites any way you choose. However, if it’s going to cause unnecessary drama, there’s a way to put their names in while making it clear they’re not paying. You’d write it like this
Ms. Julie Anne Cooper
daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Allan Cooper
Mr. Nicholas James Swanson
son of Mr. and Mrs. Christopher Swanson
request the ….
Post # 6
I am in the same situation and didn’t include our parents names on our invitations. I’ve finally come to terms with the fact that we are never going to make everyone happy. Someone will be upset about something so I’m over worrying about it. Try not to stress too much and try to enjoy the palnning 🙂
Post # 7
I honesty can’t see why a couple independent of both sets of parents need to be putting “MRS DASH A PEPPER REQUEST THE HONOR OF YOUR PRESENCE AT THE MARRIAGE OF HER DAUGHTER SALT”
Ron and I are both over the age of 35. I wish my family would give me a break.
Post # 8
Actually the invitation is issued in the name of the hosts. We are in our 40’s and hosting our wedding so we did not put our parents names on the invites either
You are correct and you should just give any complaining relatives a sweet sad smile and say “oh my I am sorry but we just wanted to follow tradition, thank you for your advice” and change the subject
Post # 9
We also didn’t use our parents names. Although both sets of parents have contributed small amounts it’s way tooconfusing. Both of our parents are divorced. My mom has a long time partner, my dad is ‘engaged’ his mom is remarried and his dad is single. How do you include 4 sets of people on one invite who all helped a little? We just had our invites say ” they decided on forever and forever begins when we bla bla bla” So don’t worry, just remember its your day and just do what you feel is best.