Post # 1
Okay so I have a question on how to word this:
basically I have a lot of people invited to my wedding who just don’t care to rsvp and will just show up! Clearly this will not fly at a formal event! I don’t want to have to chase after people to find out if they’re coming or not.
So I basically want to say something under the RSVP by such and such date, like if you do not respond it will be assumed that you will not be attending and there will not be a seat reserved for you.
I just don’t want it to come across as rude!
Post # 3
Oh plus I would need to put in a dinner choice insert as well.
Post # 4
I would just write “Please RSVP by ________”. Then maybe a week or two before that date, call or email those that you haven’t heard from yet to give them a gentle reminder. Say something like “I just wanted to make sure you received my invitiation, I need to give the caterer a head count by _________ and hadn’t heard from you yet. I hope nothing got lost in the mail!”
That way you give them a chance to RSVP. Then if they get a hold of you a few weeks later, you can politely say “I’m so sorry, we’ve already given the headcount to the caterer. If anyone ends up cancelling I’ll be sure to let you konw, but at this point we can’t change our headcount without being charged extensive fees by the catering service.” THey can’t complain, because you gave them a fair chance when you called them!
Post # 5
@eecuadrado: I wouldn’t say anything. Just ut an RSVP date by it and make that date far enough in advance that you have time to chase people down. The extra note is kind of snotty sounding and honestly, if you know your guests aren’t the type to RSVP, they probably aren’t going to read that message and abide by it, so you’ll still have people showing up that didn’t RSVP.
Unfortuantely, chasing down RSVPs is a necessary evil when it comes to wedding planning.
Post # 6
Unfortunately, the PPs are right. It’s almost like a right of passage chasing people down for their answer. Just wait, you’ll get the “Of couse I’m coming. Why would you think otherwise?” answer. And it will be annoying. And you’ll want to scream at them if they’d RSVP’d to begin with you wouldn’t need to have this conversation. Have fun!
Post # 7
Agreed! Give yourself enough time in advance…a little bit of cushion to start chasing people down who have yet to respond. You can even put your Maid/Matron of Honor or BMs to the task 🙂