Invitation wording disaster! What should I do?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
498 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Why dont you go ‘with their families’ or ‘and their families’ or use the word ‘families’ interchangably instead of listing all their names.

Post # 6
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@abigailelizabeth919:  love your invitations!


@Soon2b_mrsgrumpybear:  we’ll probably be doing some version of “together with their families,” because we are paying for most of the wedding. I think traditionally the names listed are whoever is paying for the wedding (? correct me if I’m wrong!). But I think in your case with such a messy situation where you want to honor all parents, you can forgo the individual names and just include all of your parents as one group.

Post # 7
1167 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Soon2b_mrsgrumpybear:  My parents are divorced and re-married, so we will have “Mrs A Lastname and Mr B Lastname.” While his parents will say “Mr C and Mrs D Hallam.”

Perhaps you could ask his mother if she would like her maiden name, or her last married name too, Ive seen many women change their names back after divorce.

So something like this:

“Mr C and Mrs D Hisname, Mrs A Marriedname and Mr B Marriedname.”

So, they are definitely seperate, but they are all in his lot of parents?


This could also be so wring ettiquette wise so ignore me if so 😀

Post # 8
239 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@TorontoBride2be:  +1

My parents are divorced & both remarried; FI’s parents are divorced as well.  We couldn’t list four separate sets of people on the invitations, so we went with “Together with their parents” instead.  It still acknowledges them and then we’re going to have my parents make a speech at the beginning of the reception to welcome everyone, so it’s evident that they’re hosting the event.  

If you can’t put their names on the invitations, maybe your parents would feel better if they made a similar speech..?

Post # 9
10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Both of our parents are still happily married but we used the family wording anyway. It’s easier, universal and takes up less space!

Post # 15
1367 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We said “together with our parents” 🙂

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