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Maybe move the parents part up top above your names? Something like this:
together with their parents
Brides Parents
&
Groom's Parents,
Bride
&
Groom
invite you to share in the joy of their wedding
Date
Time
Location
Reception to follow etc.
I know that it is traditional etiquette to have it the way you wrote but you don't want to have your parents upset about the wording.
Here is a link that might help you.
http://www.formal-invitations.com/invitation-text.html
It gives examples and etiquette advice.
I agree that the parents should be listed before your names b/c they are paying more than you and your fiance are. If your parents are paying for half of the wedding, then their names should definitely come first. I like Miss AsB's suggestion for wording.
Arg...don't you just hate this nonsense? If everyone's names are going to be on the invitation, I would consider compromising with your mom. Honestly I don't think any guests are going to think...bride's parents are listed first...that must mean they are paying for the majority of the wedding and the others blah blah blah...
Even though my mister's parents are helping us a bit more, my mom is doing what she can to help...we just put "together with their parents" (did not list parents; names).
Thanks. We ended up putting their names on top. Putting"together with their parents" wasn't an option for my mother. They turned out great, now just the printing needs to get done. =)
Do people honestly think that when I get a wedding invitation, I look at the order of names and go OH SO AND SO'S PARENTS PAID MORE? Nobody does that. I went through this with my mom and finally got her to realize how stupid it is to nitpick about the order of names.
Can you imagine how productive you could be working on other important stuff if you weren't having to spend your time on keeping everyone happy? I find that I'm spending more time worried about everyone else's feelings than doing what I origionally wanted...ARG!!!!
Best of luck to you!
I've never given it a second thought. I guess you notice stuff more as you plan your own wedding though.
I actually do think that the traditional wording implies that the bride's parents are hosting the event. I think older people (parents and grandparents) generally think that way too.
I'm glad you were able to come to a decision everyone was happy with :)
Ha! We just finalized the wording for my daughter's invitations yesterday,and did them exactly as you did in the first example. WE (bride's family) are paying the majority of all costs,but the groom's family and my daughter & fiancee are also contributing.....I actually suggested that they have their names first. It just looked better to me! lol. Sometimes people DO get a little nuts over the silliest things.
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There has been a situation come up with the wording our of wedding invitations. There are three parties contributing to the financial situation of the wedding, The Brides parents (1/2), The Grooms Parents (1/4) and us (1/4). After doing some research on ettique and how things should be worded in this kind of situation, we decided to go with the following wording:
Bride
&
Groom
together with their parents
Brides Parents
&
Groom's Parents
invite you to share in the joy of their wedding
Date
Time
Location
Reception to follow etc.
I made up a rough prototype of the invite and my mom took a look at it and was instantly offended with the wording saying that it looked as if we were paying for everything ourselves and that it wasn't right. She also said she have never seen a wedding invitation before that didn't have the parents listed before the bride and the groom (But this really just felt like a cover up because of what she said first). Essentially, she feels that since her and my dad are paying the most, they should get top billing and that it needs to be changed.
My FI and I both agree that this card of our invite is supposed to be about the inviting, not about who paid more for what.
Are we being completely unreasonable?
Are there any suggestions on how to change the wording to satisfy her while still stating that we are inviting everyone as well?