(Closed) Invitation Wording – Divorced Parents

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who should be listed first?
    Mother first : (1 votes)
    20 %
    Father first : (1 votes)
    20 %
    It doesn't matter : (1 votes)
    20 %
    It depends (please explain) : (2 votes)
    40 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    151 posts
    Blushing bee

    I think they should both at least be the same way…if your FI’s father is listed first, then list yours first, or the other way around….For our invites I’m just putting “Together with their parents” and leaving the names off.

    Post # 5
    Bee
    2362 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

    I actually thought that traditionally the mother’s name goes first, but I could be totally wrong about that.   My parents are divorced as well, and I put it like this:

    My dad and stepmom
    My mom
    Fiance’s mom and dad

    I put it that way because my dad is paying for most of the wedding, and I felt that this is how it should be for us.  I think that however you choose to do it will be fine, and if you’re comfortable, run it by all the interested parties first.

    Post # 6
    Member
    40 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    This is such a tough subject – thank you for asking such a good question. I’m faced with the same dilemma and am interested to hear responses from other hivers.

    Post # 7
    Member
    837 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    When you say “together with their parents” you don’t put the parents names on the invitation only yours and your fiance.  If I’m reading the way you have it correctly grammatically speaking, it reads that your parents along with THEIR parents request the honor of blah blah blah (and if I read that wrong, sorry lol).

    I don’t know about which names go first, but if it’s an issue I just wouldn’t put any names and just stick with “together with their parents, Bride & Groom request…..”

    Post # 9
    Member
    803 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    ::takes out emily post:::

    it shoud be Mr. Smith Rogers and Mrs Smith Rogers, father listed first but both listed with last names indicating they are no longer together.

    or you can list them on separate lines, but the fathers name still comes first.

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