Invitation wording drama!!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
Member
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m having the same issue! FI’s parents are divorced. His dad is contributing, and is ex-stepmom (I know confusing) is contributing even more. His biological mom isn’t helping at all and doesn’t even seem interested in being involved. I would love to put my parents names on the invitation, but I don’t want to deal with the fallout of putting his dad and current stepmom because I have a feeling his mom will flip out. So I’m going to use the “together with our parents.”

Post # 3
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11731 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well, if you’re paying and hosting, your names should be on there.  The “together with their families” was a gracious way of including people, but I guess it didn’t go over well.  I would not put your father’s name on there, as this is the spot indicating who is hosting the event, and the deceased don’t host events (although you can always remember him in other ways during the ceremony).

I would put something like this:

Bride’s Mother

Groom’s Mother (and stepfather?)

Groom’s Father (and stepmother?)

invite you to celebrate the marriage of

LarLa

and

Mr. LarLa

on… blah blah blah

ETA: apparently spacing gets all jacked up on new WB

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 9 months ago by  JiminyCricket.
Post # 4
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811 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

In the same boat here….late 30s and our parents weren’t paying for the wedding.  We did   “Because you have shared in our lives by your friendship and love, we   Name and Name   Invite you to join us at our wedding date time info blah  

 

My mom was initially not loving it, but I said that my H and I were the hosts and we wanted to represent the adults we are now.  And when I told her it was important to me to do this in my own way, she got over it.    

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Post # 5
Member
512 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

LarLa:  This exact thing happened to me, DH’s parents are divorced and I didn’t want to deal with it. Mom really wanted their names on our invites b/c it’s “tradition”

…I made 2 layouts (I had print-your-own) invites. I sent my immediate family the version with my parent’s name. The rest of our guests got: “Together with their parents” 🙂

Post # 7
Member
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

If she’s not paying or hosting then she really SHOULDN”T be on there and together with their parents should be fine.

Post # 8
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1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

LarLa:  We had a very similar issue, FI’s parents are divorced. We ended up with what I thought was the most feasible option:

Bride’s parents

invite (blah blah) to the wedding of

Bride

and

Groom

son of

Groom’s dad

and

Groom’s mom and stepdad

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