Post # 1
FI’s parents are divorced (but very amicable) and he’ll be 43 when we marry and I’ll be 37. For those reasons we weren’t going to list our parents on the invite but say something like “together with their parents”. Anyways my mom found out today and called it insulting for her name not to be on there. Myself and my FI are hosting and paying for most of the wedding with parents giving some small contributions. I caved as I don’t really care and have a new mockup with the names all included. I should mention as well that my father is deceased and I think she really wanted his name on there.
Anyone else have wedding invite wording drama?
Post # 2
I’m having the same issue! FI’s parents are divorced. His dad is contributing, and is ex-stepmom (I know confusing) is contributing even more. His biological mom isn’t helping at all and doesn’t even seem interested in being involved. I would love to put my parents names on the invitation, but I don’t want to deal with the fallout of putting his dad and current stepmom because I have a feeling his mom will flip out. So I’m going to use the “together with our parents.”
Post # 3
Well, if you’re paying and hosting, your names should be on there. The “together with their families” was a gracious way of including people, but I guess it didn’t go over well. I would not put your father’s name on there, as this is the spot indicating who is hosting the event, and the deceased don’t host events (although you can always remember him in other ways during the ceremony).
I would put something like this:
Groom’s Mother (and stepfather?)
Groom’s Father (and stepmother?)
invite you to celebrate the marriage of
on… blah blah blah
ETA: apparently spacing gets all jacked up on new WB
Post # 4
In the same boat here….late 30s and our parents weren’t paying for the wedding. We did “Because you have shared in our lives by your friendship and love, we Name and Name Invite you to join us at our wedding date time info blah
My mom was initially not loving it, but I said that my H and I were the hosts and we wanted to represent the adults we are now. And when I told her it was important to me to do this in my own way, she got over it.
Post # 5
LarLa: This exact thing happened to me, DH’s parents are divorced and I didn’t want to deal with it. Mom really wanted their names on our invites b/c it’s “tradition”
…I made 2 layouts (I had print-your-own) invites. I sent my immediate family the version with my parent’s name. The rest of our guests got: “Together with their parents” 🙂
Post # 6
It was so drama I didn’t expect. But this isn’t the battle for me to fight because I don’t care that much lol. I’m happy with the wording I have now as is FI. I did include my dad as it would feel so wrong to me not to include him on there.
Post # 7
If she’s not paying or hosting then she really SHOULDN”T be on there and together with their parents should be fine.
Post # 8
LarLa: We had a very similar issue, FI’s parents are divorced. We ended up with what I thought was the most feasible option:
invite (blah blah) to the wedding of
Groom’s mom and stepdad