Invitation wording drama

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
9 posts
  • Wedding: October 2014

Have you already bought the real invites?

If not, I would change the wording to: “along with their parents Lbward6 & FI request the honor of your presence at their wedding on November X, 2014” (real names & date of course)

That way it acknowledges both sides.. I would think your parents would be ok as long as they are still clearly acknowledged correct?


Post # 3
8388 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

She then sent me a text asking to change the wording so it looks like both sets of parents are hosting the wedding/reception

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Lbward6:  But she’s not helping host the wedding/reception.  Does this mean your parents names will be on the rehearsal dinner invites as well?

Post # 7
22 posts

Okay, so I’ll be the first to admit that weddings and wedding etiquette are a whole new world to me…


So I could be utterly wrong when I say this, so take it with a grain of salt. However, all I got out of your explanation was that your FMIL doesn’t want people thinking that she and her husband did not contribute to the wedding.

 (Which they didn’t??)

So, maybe you and your FI could try looking up different wording for the invites that isn’t quite as obvious, or you could just sort of roll your eyes at FMIL since she’s prone to drama like you said she was. Especially since you went out of your way to make seperate invites so that people would know FMIL/FFIL were hosting the rehearsal.


Did she complain about how the rehearsal invites were worded? I’m assuming your parents weren’t put on that invitation as hosting, and she doesn’t seem upset about that.


Sorry I don’t have much of a better answer for you. I hope this gets better for you soon. 🙂

Post # 8
1031 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would leave them as they are and politely point out that you have acknowledged people appropriately, which is why only their names are on the rehearsal dinner invite. You may not want to cause tension, but they are wrong and I would prefer for them to feel snubbed than to upset my own parents who have given me so much.

Post # 9
1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I would leave it as is and have fi tell them. They don’t pay, they get no’say.

Post # 10
7920 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

She needs to suck it up. Have your FI deal with this as it is his mom and he needs to say kindly but firmly, your parents are hosting the wedding and the invite will reflect that. The rehearsal dinner invite will note their contribution. 


Post # 12
1031 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Lbward6:  You’re welcome, hope she stops sulking before the wedding 😉

Post # 13
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I left names out of every invite wedid. My FI’s parents are paying for (most) of the rehearsal dinner and MIL is overly into it, my dad is paying for the wedding and could careless about etiquette (in the terms that he is easy and a ‘thank you’ goes much further than plastering his name everywhere.) I am going to make sure it is acknolwedged somewhere about my dad but we wanted our invites to have a casual feel so we had wording like “we invite you to share in an evening that has been in the works since age 16, join us for a night full of love, laughter, and celebration as we witness the marriage of…” etc etc. Just an idea! Again, I’m not sure what the feel of your wedding is or if your parents would care but if they are laid back like my dad that seemed to advert some drama! 🙂 

Post # 14
4760 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Tell FMIL” oh I’m sorry I didn’t realize you’re contributing to the wedding.  What is the ammount on the check I am expecting?”

Your wording has perfect etiquett to your situation and you FMIL needs to either contribute or STFU.

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