Invitation Wording Drama

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1298 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@nawella:  This is what we used: 

It is with great happiness that 

 My parents names 

and 

his parents names

invite you to join the celebration of the marriage of their children 

. . . 

It was meant to be more of a respect/honor the parents thing rather than the traditional “who’s hosting” or “who’s paying” sort of recognition. We paid for a large chunk of our wedding ourselves. I knew my parents would not like the “together with our families” option 🙂 

ETA: sorry, I don’t have any great advice re: how to list step parents etc. I think the way you have it is fine if you want to have everyone included. 

 

 

 

Post # 4
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3960 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@nawella:   I think your wording is fine – I don’t see any financial hierarchy in the way you have written it.

 

Post # 5
Member
133 posts
Blushing bee

Maybe something similar to what we did? My parents are still married, but his are divorced.

 

Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe

invite you to witness

the marriage of their daughter

First Middle

to

First Middle

son of John Smith and Jane Smith

on date

year

location

Post # 7
Member
677 posts
Busy bee

@nawella:  Another Jewish bee, and we’re only a week apart!

What we’re doing is:

Mr. & Mrs. Pocketfox Parents and
Mr. Pocketfox FIL
Mrs. Pocketfox MIL

request the honour of your presence etc.

However, in our case, FI’s step father is not involved in the wedding, other than being FMIL’s significant other. We also don’t plan on having him in the processional or in the program.

PS. We’re using honour of your presence because my parents aren’t Jewish, and that’s what I’m used to, and FI doesn’t really care

Post # 8
Member
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Wow I had no idea that the wording on the invite had anything to do with who was paying for the wedding!

I was struggling with the wording as my parents are divorced and my SO’s are not, but these are some great suggestions!

I’m marrying into Jewish 🙂

Post # 9
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5017 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I am struggling too! My mother passed away about 7 years ago and my dad’s girlfriend has become like a second mother to me – she is helping me plan the whole thing – but I have no idea if I should list her on the invites or not!

My dad is paying for a lot of it (with FI’s parents) but she bought my dress & is paying for hair/makeup for all the bridesmaids. UGH! I also don’t want my mom’s family to feel as if I have replaced my mom (which obviously I haven’t).

Good luck

Post # 10
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729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Why not keep it simple? “The families of Nawella & Nawella’s FH invite you….” Too many specifics make it clunky, imo.

Post # 11
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2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I was going to say “Together with their families…” but I see you didn’t want that.

I do like what @chercee: suggested, though – seems like a great way to save words and space 🙂

And then maybe list your family members with a description and a “thank you” in the back of the ceremony program? This way people can read a little about them and why you’re grateful.

 

Post # 12
Hostess
22135 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

@jbh13:  I agree. The “Son of…” line works really well to include all families!

Post # 14
Member
677 posts
Busy bee

@weatherbug:  Have you thought of using “Together with our families”, which would encompass everyone, and then under your names, putting your parents? For example:

Together with their families,

Weatherbug
Daughter of Papa Weatherbug and the late Mama Weatherbug

and

Weatherbug FI
Son of etc etc etc

And then in the ceremony program, you can list your dad’s girlfriend

Post # 16
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307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We’re going with “together with our families” because my parents are divorced and FI’s Dad passed away a few days ago. If we were going to have names, he wanted both of his parents, but didn’t want me to put “the late” in front of his dad’s name. He thought it was weird. Since I thought my family would be confused why his dad wasn’t there (and because I didn’t want my dad to get pissed when my mom’s name was first) (I have issues, right?) we went with the above. My mom, dad and us are splitting it pretty close to evenly, so that seems right.

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