Post # 1
Im makin gout my invitations and need help. How do I politley add to the RSVP that we ask only who we are inviting to go or plus ones. In our family people tend to bring tons of friends or just people to wedding that we most likely wont know. Plus our list is very limited and I would hate uninvited guest. How do I add this to the invitation.
My Idea was… We request no additional guest. Only family invited or plus ones welcomed.
Fiance thinks this sounds a little rude but I dont want people I dont know or crashers there taking seating that belongs to someone invited. THANKS FOR THE HELP
Post # 3
@Elizabeth_A: Traditionally, you would include an inner envelope to indicate who is invited. You can also write on your RSVP cards: “We have reserved # seats in your honor” or “__ of # guests attending.”
It’s technically poor etiquette to point out who is NOT invited.
Post # 4
I will be writing out guests name on the response card as well as the envelopes. It is considered very rude to put something like you’ve suggested on the invitation. If anyone RSVPs with extra people, you can call them up and explain that (best excuse to go with) the venue cannot accommodate extra guests. (If you use money, people will try to pay their way in)
Post # 5
I agree with the “We have reserved X seats for you” on the response card. You leave the X blank and just hand write the number.
Post # 6
I just ordered my invites last week and we went with “___ number of seats have been reserved in your honor.” I thought that got the point across without being rude. If people write down extra names, I planned on calling and explaining that we would really like an intimate wedding and we were trying to keep it small. End of story 🙂
Post # 7
I would put ___ of ### attending. And you fill in the ### part for them. That should hopefully discourage most of that bizarre behavior!
Post # 8
i agree it sounds rude. Thanks for the advice but knowing the families if I include we have reseved _ for you they will use substitutes if a family member isnt going. Im really tryi.g to avoid people who were not invited. We werent planning on writing every person in the household invited, how does it look? How do kids names apply? we were just gonna do the Sandoval Family for eg. This is not my area if you cant tell and i hate lengthy invites as most go to the trash.
Post # 9
@Elizabeth_A: this is what we did to curb the plus 1 because we have the same problem with our families and friends – I stated how many seats we have reserved for them – I just wrote in the number of people invited
Post # 10
@avonleaR: so where you have names tbey write every person from the family that is comming? That goes with the seats reserved? What if they only write the name of the household and you dont know how many of the x seats are coming? Again this is not my area sorry
Post # 11
@Elizabeth_A: you could put the names in for them, I didnt but i did address the envelope to the invitees. for us it was more about no plus ones, which if theres a 1 in sears reserved its pretty clear (i hope)
Post # 12
I am going to handwrite first names of those invited onto the RSVP. I figure I might have an addition or two, but I think that it would make it very clear who is invited