Post # 1
I have an issue that my FI and I are disagreeing about. My parents are exclusively paying for the wedding so tradition would dictate that my parents names would go at the top of the invitation (i.e., Dr. and Mrs. F… request the honor of your presence, etc.). However, I’m not sure how his parents names fit into the whole thing. I would feel badly if they were left out altogether so I was thinking of including them "Dr. and Mrs. F… request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter GirlFriday to FI Friday, son of Mr. and Mrs. Q…". I want to honor the fact that my parents are hosting but I think it would be extremely disrespectful to leave his parents off entirely. I’m not sure what to do! What do you guys think??
Sorry: I guess I should clarify that my FI wants his parents names to go on the top as well. However, I have canvassed some opinions and some people have said that because they are not contributing, their names should not go on at all. I’m not willing to leave them off entirely but nor do I think that his parents names should go at the top. I just don’t want to breach etiquette…
Post # 3
Hi, I’m not sure what your asking us. Is the problem that your fiance wants his parents names on top? Adding them in under "son of" is a very respectful thing to do so I agree thats the way you should handle this. If you explain a little more about your disagreement we should be able to help you.
Post # 4
Here’s how we worded ours since the wedding is being paid for by my dad, his parents, and us:
Love is meant to be share
With parents, family, and friends
Teresa Ann Bride
Kenneth Jeremy Groom
Together with our parents
Dad Bride &
Dad and Mom Groom
Invite you to share int our celebration
Of lifelong love and commitment
Blah blah blah you get the point 😉
Hope this helps!
Post # 5
I think that what you came up with is a perfect way to handle it! My mom is helping us out with costs, and my FI’s family isn’t able to…but I still wanted to include them on the invitaion also…for the same reasons you mentioned. My sister is also helping us out, and then we’ll round out the remaining costs….so the top of our invites is going to say "Together with their families"…and then the rest of the invite wording. I think you already found the best solution! It’s very gracious of you to include them on the invite! Very good move 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery
Also not sure what you’re asking but it is perfectly acceptable to add his parents names like you described if they aren’t paying…
Dr and Mrs Frank Friday request the honor of your presents
for the marriage of their daughter
Miss Girl Friday
Mr FI of Girl Friday
son of Mr and Mrs Q Newlastname
Post # 7
You got it right the first time. Your parents "requesting the honor of your presence" indicates that they are hosting the event, and your FH’s wording would be "John Jacob, son of Andrew and Marcia Smith." You don’t include the groom’s last name. Or if you do, you don’t include his parent’s last name.
Post # 8
i agree w. miss bulldog – you hit it perfectly. that wording looks great, sounds great and is a perfect compromise between what he wants and what traditional etiquette would dictate.
Post # 9
I agree with you and FrenchBulldog — put their name after their sons "son of …" … that is what we are doing.