Invitation wording help: deceased FOB, divorced parents, please critique!!

posted 2 years ago in Paper
Post # 2
1209 posts
Bumble bee

You don’t list FI’s parents as Mr and Mrs. Joe Brown Sr….. So I think it works!


Post # 3
2798 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

 I get who is getting married, but I might rearange so your and your FI’s names are together.  It’s probably one of the first pieces of paper where your names belong togher, and I would highlight that.  This is just an example;

Jane Doe Smith


Joe Shmo Brown, JR

Together with their parents

Ann Doe and the late Micahle Doe

Mary Brown

Joe Brown Sr

Request the honor, ect, ect,

Post # 4
528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

robynrox47:  I think it sounds good. Most of the people receiving the invitation will understand at least half of it (ie: late father or divorced parents) and the rest won’t even notice or think about it. When people receive wedding invites they look at the couple’s names, date, place. They don’t get too up into details. By the time the wedding comes, people will have forgotten the wording anyway, so no need to worry about awkward questions or conversations. Besides, you’ll be too busy on your day for all of that anyway.

Post # 5
2107 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I thought that if you wrote “together with their parents” you didn’t need to put the names of the parents.

Post # 6
42157 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

stephncollins:  but she said she wants to recognize her mother but not only her mother.

Post # 8
405 posts
Helper bee

Together with their families

Jane Doe Smith


Joe Schmo Brown Junior

request the honour of your presence  (I presume you’re getting married in a place of worship?)

as they are united in marriage

Day, date<br />time<br />Venue<br />Address<br />City, State






Mrs. Michael Doe  (or whatever your mom chooses to go by)

Ms. Mary Brown

Mr. Joe Brown Senior

request the honour of your presence

at the marriage of 

Jane Doe Smith


Joe Schmo Brown, Jr.

Son of Mary Brown


Joe Brown Sr. 

Day, date<br />time<br />Venue<br />Address<br />City, State<br />





Note: it is not an honour to be listed on an invitation, nor is an invitation a family tree.  Only the hosts and the couple getting married should be listed on the invitation.  Deceased people cannot host a wedding, so they should not be listed on an invitation.  Feel free to do something at the wedding in honour of them, though, ie. an “In Memory” section in your ceremony program.

Post # 9
2107 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

BurlapnLace:  I agree with PP and I think the wedding program would be a good spot to honor your late father, or an empty chair, or something at the reception – it would be more meaningful.


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