INVITATION WORDING, INCLUDING BOTH MOTHERS AKA SINGLE MOTHERS RAISED US

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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2526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

Mom 1 and Mom 2 

invite you to the wedding of their children:

you and fi

 

OR

mom 1

invites you to the wedding of her daughter,

you

to

fi,

son of

mom 2

Post # 3
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2455 posts
Buzzing bee

No need to shout 🙂

You could do what PP posted, or if you’re helping host

“Badnesa and FI, together with their mothers, invite you….”

If you’re worried about who goes first I believe it’s the bride’s family. Just choose the traditional wording you like and leave out fathers’ names.

Post # 4
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42472 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ms Julia Franken

and

Ms Betty White

requests the honour of your presence<br /> at the marriage of their children

Badnesa49r:  Franken

and

Mr Steven George White

on Saturday, the ninth of June

blah blah bah

Post # 5
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1649 posts
Bumble bee

Badnesa49r:  Widowhood and divorce are nothing new. A lady who is married may optionally include her husband’s name with hers when hosting a formal party; a lady who is unmarried simply uses her own name on its own.

So, a very traditional proper invitation would read:

Ms Jane Forty-Niner

requests the pleasure of the company of

Mr and Mrs Handwritten Names

at the marriage of her daughter

Badnesa Forty-Niner

with

Mr Handsome Guy

on Saturday the tenth of January

at Country Club

Note that Handsome gets an honorific (Mr) in front of his name, but you don’t. That is because the hostess who is issuing the invitation is your own mother and it is silly for her to call her own child “Miss” or “Ms”. Including the name of the groom’s parent(s) although she is not hosting, is a new trend. It is handled in exactly the same way whether the groom has one parent or three: they are listed after the groom’s name to help identify him:

Ms Jane Forty-Niner

requests the pleasure of the company of

Mr and Mrs Handwritten Names

at the marriage of her daughter

Badnesa Forty-Niner

with

Mr Handsome Guy

son of Ms Whoneedsa Guy

on Saturday the tenth of January

at Country Club

It is not completely formal and proper for two hostesses to host a formal party; and it’s a compromise that sets the party-planning up to be a hotbed of conflict. The buck has to stop somewhere: and it stops with the Hostess, who has the final say on everything related to the guests’ safety, comfort and entertainment. When there are multiple hostesses the question of which one has the final say remains open. However, if you insist that the mothers will co-host and don’t mind the hospitality-by-committee look, the invitations would read:

Ms Jane Forty-Niner

and

Ms Whoneedsa Guy

request the pleasure of the company of

Mr and Mrs Handwritten Names

at the marriage of their children

Badnesa Forty-Niner

with

Handsome Guy

on Saturday the tenth of January

at Country Club

Note that in this case Handsome also loses his honorific; and the singular verb “requests” becomes the plural “request”.

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