(Closed) Invitation wording issue

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

In that case, I would probably do:

Mr. & Mrs Tom and Judy Smith

invite you to share blah blah blah…

Probably not technically correct in writing, but if you read it out loud it sounds ok.

Post # 6
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013



you could do


Mr dad’s name+last name


mrs. mom’s name+last name




mr. and mrs dad’s name+mom’s name+last name


or simply


mom’s name

dad’s name


if the wedding s not formal, go for it!

Post # 7
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

@FutureMrsWeston:   I was JUST working on this today with my invitations!  I also wanted a way to include both my parents names.  I decided it either had to be 

Mr and Mrs John Doe (like you have)


John and Jane Doe (skip Mr. and Mrs)

It was way too hard on the eyes to put Mr John and Mrs Jane Doe

If your parents are okay with it, I would leave it the way you have it, thats the way I went

Post # 8
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We included both my parents names on the invite: Gary and Cindy Last Name

I also despise when people drop the women’s name like she doesn’t exist

Post # 9
7354 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@FutureMrsWeston:  You can phrase it however you like, of course, but the reason “Mr. & Mrs. Hisfirst & Herfirst Theirlast” is incorrect is because “Mrs” literally means the wife of. (Ok, really literally, it means mistress, but originally that DID mean wife. So “Mrs. Jane Smith” means “the wife of Jane Smith.” So technically, if you’re opposed to being called or identified as “the wife of John Smith” — eg “Mrs. John Smith” you should simply not use Mrs. You CAN of course, but it’s technically incorrect, which is why you keep seeing that. 

For your invitation wording, what about just dropping Mr & Mrs entirely: 

Jane and John Smith
invite you to you share in the celebration 
of the marriage of their daughter 

Post # 10
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Daisy_Mae:  I’ve read the “wife of” explanation before on the bee, but it is a myth. it did originated from mistress, and mistress was applied to both married and unmarried woman.

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