Post # 1
My DH and I are using a combination of digital and printed invitations at our marriage celebration in Sept.
As background, we got married at City Hall in March due to immigration needs but will be having a reception with our friends and family. We’re not registering or having a formal ceremony, it’s a party that will likely be the only time our friends and family from around the world will all be in one place. As a result we’ll be having a few events and have lots of travel information/things to do/see/eat in NYC because many of our friends will be traveling a long distance & taking this as a holiday.
So…now my wording question. I’m confused about the order of things. After I put our details (bride & groom request the pleasure of your company at the celebration of our marriage, date, time, place) there are two other things I want to include:
1) A dress code (Is “Cocktail Attire” acceptable wording?) My MIL suggested we include a dress code since apparently her brother is threatening to show up in a golf shirt and khakis. (I told her she could tell him that hit fit right in with the throngs of tourists in Times Square but I will include one since other people will ask.) Also non-American or Canadian Bees – does this make sense? I’ve also seen “Summer Wedding Formal” on Kiwi invites so not sure if Cocktail Attire works in other countries?
2) Something like “For more details and to RSVP, please visit our website at _______ and enter with code XX”
What order should this be in? Website first? Or dress code?
Thanks in advance for comments.
Post # 3
careful with “summer wedding formal,” that sounds to me like an invitation to wear khakis and “business casual” comfortable clothing
Post # 4
@canuckandakiwi: Since you are using the traditional stilted third-person language to the effect that “Ms Canuck and Mr Kiwi / request the pleasure of the company of / …” I assume you are having a formal party and want to consider using the formal invitation structure. In that case, put the dress code in small print in the lower right corner where additional information properly goes, and put “R.s.v.p. / [email protected] / 555-444-3210″ in the lower left (or, instead of the foreign abbreviation, the more forthright English “The favour of a reply is requested.”)
When I hear “reception” I tend to think of afternoon garden-party tea type affairs so no, “Cocktail Attire” does not work for that. For such an affair the appropriate dress would best be called “Daytime formal.” If your affair really is a cocktail party in that five o’clockisn ambiguous timeframe, “Cocktail Attire” works fine.
Post # 5
Thank you both for the helpful thoughts re dress code. The wording “Summer Wedding formal” was on my SIL’s invite and most of her friends showed up in suits and long or cocktail dresses. I hadn’t heard it before and showed up in a long dress which turned out to be fine.
Our event is actually a sit-down dinner with drinks and butlered appetizers served before dinner. I guess I should probably say “Formal” which would also be befitting of the venue. It’s so funny – my DH isn’t comfortable with saying “Black Tie” and where he’s from “cocktail” isn’t as well-known.
And thank you @aspasia475 for the info. on placement of text!