(Closed) Invitation wording question – parents last names, professions, etc.

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

second option

Post # 4
5405 posts
Bee Keeper

If they don’t care about the etiquette and prefer it the second way that’s more simple, I would do that. I don’t think all the etiquette crap is really necessary personally. 

Post # 5
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We listed all of the names because it was the only place where our last names were anywhere on the invite, and there are a good amount of parents’ friends invited. I like “together with their parents” if you don’t have to list them out.


If you are going to list them out, do your parents use Dr. socially, as opposed to professionally? Dr. really sticks out and is a bit distracting, so you could use Mr. and Mrs. instead if they are comfortable with it. And you could also do Mr. & Mrs. George Smith, but I know at least my mom doesn’t like when she’s lumped in under my dad’s name like that.

Post # 6
7 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

If your parents don’t have a preference, then I would go with which option YOU like better and are more comfortable with. Personally, I like a more formal sounding invitation… especailly if you are having a formal wedding.


I am having a similar issue with my fiance’s parents names. They are divorced so when we write “son of” I am not sure if I list his mother’s name first or father’s name first or if it even matters…..

Post # 8
1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@cmbr:  I personally prefer the “together with their parents” wording.  If no one is offended that they will not be named on the invitation, that wording sounds a little more formal than the “George Smith and Sally Walters” option.


Don’t feel bad … I’ve been stressing out about addressing envelopes for our Save the Dates.  Those are obviously not as formal as the invitations, and I seriously spent 2 hours debating whether I should center everything or align everything on the left side.  I felt like a crazy person, but I think this is just what happens when you want to make sure every detail is perfect!


Post # 9
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d go with the second option if you aren’t super picky about etiquette. In general it’s seen as acceptable anyways. You’ll figure out what’s right for you! 


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