Post # 1
I’m having a church ceremony and having a reception at another location about half an hour after the ceremony. How do I tell my guests about the reception?
I really, really don’t want to have a reception card, because everything is in a nice accordion fold as it is without the reception card.
Instead, I want to briefly mention the reception on the invitation itself, and have a comprehensive “Directions” or “Details/Information” section that basically has the directions from different freeways to both the ceremony and reception.
Can I just put “Reception to follow” even though ceremony and reception are in two different locations, and the addresses can be found on the Directions card?
Do I have to put “Reception to follow at ________” instead?
What about “Reception to follow at [time] [place] [address]” ???
Post # 3
In formal etiquette, less is more and form follows function. The function of a separate reception card is to allow the hostess to slip the card into some envelopes and not into others, so that she may invite some people to the wedding only and other people to both the wedding and the reception or dinner-dance. This was an alternative used by hostesses who did not want to invite everyone to the reception and who could not therefore follow the normal practice of including all the information on a single card. Lest anyone be shocked by the notion of what they would nowadays refer to as a “tiered reception”, they should consider that this was common throughout the twentieth century and no amount of twenty-first-century historical revisionism will make that fact go away, even if you consider the practice unacceptable now. However, since most people do consider that practice unacceptable now, it bemuses me why they would want to go on using reception cards. The information quite properly belongs on the invitation itself.
Post # 4
@aspasia475: Perhaps that is true, but I have been having trouble finding invitations that fit that info. But it’s good to know that now I don’t need to spend the money on reception cards!
Post # 5
@nawella: You also have the option of placing the information on the lower right corner in small print (opposite the R.s.v.p. information in the lower left corner). Provided the address of the reception site is not too florid you could fit it on two small lines:
reception, five o’clock
123 Outlandish Avenue
Post # 6
Unless you live in the UK of course where tiered receptions are commonplace! But we tend to have different invitations printed – one for the whole shebang and one for the evening guests.
So you don’t include the wedding venue on the evening only reception invitations but you would include the reception information on the all-day invitations. In this latter case, you would not provide separate reception cards.