Invitation wording: "reception to follow at…" / reception card?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Reception in second location, ~30 minutes after ceremony, how to word it? Reception card necessary?
    Reception card is always necessary when reception is at a different location! : (3 votes)
    10 %
    Reception card is not necessary, and this way everything will fit perfectly on an accordion invite! : (4 votes)
    14 %
    Simply "Reception to follow" on the invitation card itself (separate "Directions" card) : (2 votes)
    7 %
    Mention place on invitation card: "Reception to follow at [place]" (separate "Directions" card) : (11 votes)
    38 %
    Mention the place and the time on invitation card: "Reception to follow at [time] [place] [address]" : (7 votes)
    24 %
    Other (please explain below) : (0 votes)
    Your poll is confusing! : (0 votes)
    I'm craving cupcakes! : (2 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    1644 posts
    Bumble bee

    In formal etiquette, less is more and form follows function. The function of a separate reception card is to allow the hostess to slip the card into some envelopes and not into others, so that she may invite some people to the wedding only and other people to both the wedding and the reception or dinner-dance. This was an alternative used by hostesses who did not want to invite everyone to the reception and who could not therefore follow the normal practice of including all the information on a single card. Lest anyone be shocked by the notion of what they would nowadays refer to as a “tiered reception”, they should consider that this was common throughout the twentieth century and no amount of twenty-first-century historical revisionism will make that fact go away, even if you consider the practice unacceptable now. However, since most people do consider that practice unacceptable now, it bemuses me why they would want to go on using reception cards. The information quite properly belongs on the invitation itself.


    Post # 4
    1466 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @aspasia475:  Perhaps that is true, but I have been having trouble finding invitations that fit that info. But it’s good to know that now I don’t need to spend the money on reception cards!

    Post # 5
    1644 posts
    Bumble bee

    @nawella:  You also have the option of placing the information on the lower right corner in small print (opposite the R.s.v.p. information in the lower left corner). Provided the address of the reception site is not too florid you could fit it on two small lines:

    reception, five o’clock
    123 Outlandish Avenue

    Post # 6
    2419 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Unless you live in the UK of course where tiered receptions are commonplace! But we tend to have different invitations printed – one for the whole shebang and one for the evening guests.

    So you don’t include the wedding venue on the evening only reception invitations but you would include the reception information on the all-day invitations. In this latter case, you would not provide separate reception cards. 

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