(Closed) invitation wording – same location for ceremony and reception but 2.5 hr break

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Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

That sounds about right 🙂

Also, make sure there is something for guests to do, or somewhere else they can go for snacks or whatever while you guys are gone! Two and a half hours is a long time to be waiting around 🙂

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m not sure that there is a way to say that on the invitation other than what you’ve said (i.e. ceremony at Xpm, followed by reception at Ypm). Then just make an announcement following the ceremony about what’s going on. Do the guests have to leave? Is it the sort of venue where they could wander around and look at things (e.g. a garden, or historic venue).

Is it possible to hold a cocktail hour at a different, nearby venue? Some places might be able to offer snacks and so on at a much cheaper rate than a “proper” cocktail hour at your actual venue. Failing that, are there any attractions in the area or nice some family members who would be happy to entertain guests for two and a half hours? Sorry, but I think it’s a little harsh to have people come to your wedding ceremony, then you and your new husband have to leave them for so long with nothing for them to do. Plus, if they’re not locals, they’ll just be hanging around awkwardly until you guys are ready to see them again.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If you don’t mind me asking…why no cocktail hour?

Also, is the ceremony and reception space the same, or is the ceremony outside, reception inside?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You could have a 2 hour cocktail break ? I agree that you should find something specific to mention for your guests while your off taking photos. Such as ” please proceed to X venue for refreshments, reception to follow at 5pm”. Their comfort should be as important as having an extra hour of photographs and it would be nice for family & friends to mingle before the reception, especially if there are out of towners. If people are forced to make their own plans where to go in between, it’s sort of putting them on the spot. There’s no way I’d want to play golf in a new outfit. Maaaaaybe the casino, but that’s more of an end of the night thing & good luck rounding everyone up to be back at the reception on time. Is there a nice bar nearby? I actually mingled with all our guests at our reception pre-drinks and got some fabulous group photos & lovely portraits of our guests, instead of a million or bride & groom photos.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@KellyLouise:  Agreed. You should provide some sort of entertainment for the guests during the break. If you’re asking the guests to leave for 2 1/2 hours, some may not come back. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

yeah it would be one thing if the ceremony and reception were in different places, but to make guests get in their cars, leave, and then come back to the same place is odd.  What do you mean by “we don’t normally do cocktail hours”?  Does that mean that at most weddings in your region you have the ceremony and go straight to dinner?  Not that I think it’s bad not to have cocktail hour, I’m just curious of what the situation is.  It seems like there has to be a better solution than sending them off to fend for themselves.  You could just provide passed punch and cookies in the ceremony room or something.  Or let them into the reception space and you guys have you entrance later.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I feel that because the ceremony and reception are in the same location, you really should provide for your guests in some way. Maybe you could do light refreshments, or plan something outside. Personally, I would not know what to do with myself for 2.5 hours if I was not from the area.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Are there things in walking distance?  Is it a difficult parking area?  Depending on those you might want to try for some sort of cocktail hour.  I recently visited Vancouver and found some areas parking was a real challenge.  At the very least, I’d consider information about a bus route or skytrain that’s readily accessible from your venue to activities.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Maybe on the formal invitation you can say “Reception to follow, blah blah blah”, but you can include a reception card that says something like:

“Following the reception, we invite you to spend the time until the reception exploring these nearby attractions: blah blah. This is a great time to mingle and make new friends, or spend time with loved ones! We will rejoin you at [time], back at [venue/address].

Love,

[Your names]

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