- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
So.. It is time to order invitations & I am having a little issue.
My mother would like to ONLY have my parents names on the invitations.
My Fiance and I would like his mom/stepdad & my parents names on it.
FMIL would like my parents, her/stepfil, and bio father on it.
[My fi’s real father is a nightmare, he tells my FI that we shouldn’t get married, that I’m no good for him, that he thinks I hate him so he doesn’t like me, that he refuses to help pay, etc. I’ve met the man four times, and I try to talk to him, but he won’t have it. And when my FI doesn’t have time to call him- he works 7 days a week, 13 hours a day- he gets so pissed at him. So, we would rather him not be on there at ALL. He is walking down the aisle BEHIND my fmil/stepfil, and we know his new gf is going to try to claim her right to walk down the aisle which I definately won’t tolerate :)]
So anyway, since nobody can agree and it seems that what we want doesn’t really matter, what is some good wording options? I was thinking, Mr & Mrs ____ give their daughter to ________ the son of Mr. & Mrs. _______. My fmil said she will buy 5 invitations to send to my FI’s real dad and his immediate family so they don’t blowup. But quite frankly I don’t care. He has terrible things to say about me based off of his terrible past relationships, I guess. He just wants my FI to be a party boy and whatever which is the EXACT OPPOSITE of his personality. It’s frustrating, but I feel like I need to please everyone. My mom got really upset that I wanted my FI’s parents on there, but they are paying for (in my eyes) a lavish honeymoon, flights, alcohol, and she threw me an over the top wedding shower, and they are very very supportive of us.
With all that being said, how could I word the invites so that my parents, in laws, and ME AND MY FI are happy? sheeeesh. Never would of thought it would be such a struggle, lol.