Post # 1
so the lowdown on my situation is FI and I are paying for the wedding entirely ourselves. Our parents have both supported us a lot over the years and I know a) he wants his parents name on the invite, b) I think it would be nice…but could to with “together with the parents” but c) I know his family will raise HELL if they are not on it. They are italian and very traditional with all wedding stuff so far….so….
I’m very proud of the fact that we can throw this kind of wedding ourselves without help and to be honest… & damn it I want the credit?? LOL I mean… depending how the invite reads it can indicate whos hosting so… I would feel weird if people were thanking the parents for throwing such a wonderful party when they have no hand in paying or planning.
This may not be the exact wording so Im not really paying attention to all the grammer stuff right now, but let me know if this sounds good. Sidenote: im also having issues fitting all the parents because my mom is re-married and my FI’s last name is ridiculously long :s ARGH!
Shanbp and Italian stallion
request the honour of your presence as they exchange vows on their wedding day
Please join together in celebration with their parents
Mrs. shanpb, Mr. shanbp1, and Mr.shanbp2
Mrs. italian stallion, and Mr. Italian stallion
at twelve thirty in the afternoon on the seventeenth of august two thousand and thirteen
at…such and such parish…. blah blah blah
I think it makes it clear that WE are inviting everyone but yet we have our parents as well??? 🙂
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Honestly, you’re paying for the wedding, his parents shouldn’t get their name on it. Anywhere. C’mon. And, if they are “traditional’, that would have mean YOUR parents pay for everything.
I would say “together with their parents” if FI is going to throw a fit or, optimally,
“We joyfully invite you to celebrate…” and leave it at that. The fact of the matter is the hosts’ (aka the people paying for the wedding) names go on the invite.
Post # 4
@lealorali: LOL, well I hope its that easy….who knows. I haven’t technially gone over it with FI yet, maybe he will think “together with” will be fine. I just have this feeling it will be a blowout if we dont.
You should hear some of the questions I’ve been asked so far from the IL’s…..”so, how many limos are we having?” (yes as in plural)
“um….we…. the bride & groom together with the bridal party will have ONE limo/party bus taking US to and from the ceremony and around for pictures”… feel free to pay for your own limo if you choose and want to be carted around lmao. Like really???
“but what about the familia?”…..um…I dunno… DRIVE??
We do have enough room for the parents to come to/from the ceremony because the boys and girls will be going seperately but after that when we go for photos the photog (and I fully agree) that she wants no one else but the BP because its too distracting.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
OMG hun I feel for ya! Limos” who does that?! My family is also Italian and overbearing but you have got to STAND FIRM!
Don’t let them bully you. You simply don’t say someone is hosting (aka writing their name on thei invitation) if they’re not paying. Do they have no common sense?!
Post # 6
Here’s a site that gives you some wording options, and maybe you’ll like one of these. It’s always difficult with wording anyway!
If you go back to the search options, you can also see some including both parents.
Here’s another site with some ideas with FAQ’s.
Post # 7
SO, I actually found some invites I love love love, and I started to work out the wording (assuming FI was gonna want his parents on it even though we are the only ones hosting). I ran it by FI, and he kinda looked at it weird, and he said well i dont think we need the parents names, I dont think Ive seen it bfr…..SCORE LAIDES!!!!! Ugh I was so sure he was going to want it just because of everything else, but looks like were on the same page. We did put in the line that says “join us and our families on this memorable day”…..
Once I got it finalized and my gf proof-read it for me, I hit ORDER!!! no turning back now 😀 Im not going to be sending them until probably the end of april…. so Im not going to show FIL’s before then (that way even if they do kick up a fuss its way too late to do anything about it). I actually copy/pasted a doc together from several ediq sites and if they say a word Im just going to have it handy for them to read.
They could surprise me though…. maybe they wont say a word??? fingers crossed