Post # 1
Hello fellow bees!
My fiance and I got enagaged 6 months ago and it is wonderful being closer than we ever have been- I cannot wait to be married to him. I have started wedding planning and so far we have our venue, church, band, car and accomodation, so I don’t think we’re doing too badly!
I just wish I didn’t have to wait over a year to be married. We both feel the same way but it’s the only way we can get married at the place which is very special to us. Oh well, I guess I’ll have to be patient.
I know usually you should leave wedding invites to 6 months before the date, but because we both have rather large families we were thinking of sending out invites in August (wedding is August next year) to family only, when do you usually ask people to reply by? He has a lot of family travelling over, as do I and so we thought we’d see how many people respond and from there we know who else we can invite in our extended families and friends. Has anyone else done this?
Thanks ladies! 🙂
Post # 3
I think even 6 months is too early, and a year is way too early, normally invitations go out 2-3 months in advance. Why not just do save-the-dates in August and send the actual invitations out next May.
Post # 4
@reebee: I agree with PP. A year is WAY too early for invitations
Post # 5
I am sending invites this July for my wedding in November. The only reason we are doing 4 months in advance is because about 75% of our guests are out of town and will have to arrange flights, and this will give them the opportunity to look for seat sales and whatnot. Otherwise, I probably would have waited until August.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
6 months in advance for the invites is WAY too early– and a whole year could be disasterous.
Usually you send out the save the dates 6 months in advance, but sending them a year out would be ok.
But invites should wait until 2-3 months before the wedding. This is because people’s schedules and circumstances change, and most people don’t know where they will be in a year so they can’t properly RSVP right now; and if you send them too early, most people will forget.
Another thing to consider is relationships changing– I got engaged 2 years ago, I asked my sister, my brother’s wife, and a close friend to be my bridesmaids… well, said brother got divorced last year… not exactly the most comfortable situation, but because I already asked– we are now stuck with it (Although I could kill my brother for not telling me they were having problems!).
I know you want to do as much as possible right now– but it’s really best to wait.
Post # 7
I think a year is too early, because you may need to get information from your guests (such as which meal they prefer) from their RSVP cards, so if you mail the invites out now, you may end up still having to mail something to them closer to the date. Most people send out invites 2-3 months in advance and request that people RSVP by 1 month before the wedding, so that they can give the headcount (and meal preferences, if they give the guests a choice) to the venue/caterers beforehand.
What you should do is send out save-the-dates! There’s no rule about when it’s too early to mail those out! We mailed ours out 6 months in advance but I suppose you could send them out a year ahead of time. If you are worried about making sure people have plenty of time to book their flights and accomodations ahead of time, then set up a wedding website with all of that info, and include the URL for the website on your save-the-date. You’ll want to reserve a block of hotel rooms and put that information on your website. (Our hotel actually created our own little website for our guests to get a discount when they reserve their hotel rooms our wedding weekend.)
Also, I think mailing invites to a select group of people in advance is dangerous. What if some people heard you sent out invites and are hurt that they weren’t invited (even though you plan on inviting them later)? Instead, you could try bringing up the wedding with your family members once you send out your save-the-dates, and try to gauge whether or not they’ll be able to make it.
Post # 8
You can send out via postcard (design yourself) “Save the Dates.” Go to Vistaprint.com/thanks3 and do a search for them under wedding announcement/invitations. They give you a template and you can put the announcement and a cute photo of you both, leave the back blank (or just draw underlines to the right, use a small print to be your return address on the upper left) and fill out the address and mail them. You could say something like:
It seems too long until our wedding song –
but we couldn’t wait, so sending this announcement
Look at your calendar and save the date
join our day and let’s celebrate!
Lisa and Bill
Wedding Day: Saturday, August 13, 2013
Location: Boston, MA
Formal invitation to follow
Post # 9
WAYYYYYYYYYYY too early.
You have no idea what can change in a year – in terms of times, locations, etc.
Send out a Save the Date with general info (date and state), and send the invites a max of 2-3 months before the wedding.
Post # 10
Thank you ladies for your help! That’s what I expected so I’m glad I know what to do now.
I think we’ll go with save the date cards then, that’s seems like a sensible thing to do. 🙂