- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
We are mailing out our invitations this weekend (EEEE!), but I’m at a loss for figuring out what to do about a family situation.
I was inviting my cousin and her husband. I was also inviting their daughter, who is 21 and still lives at home.
Earlier this week, my cousin announced that she was getting divorced and it’s pretty obvious that this is not going to be friendly. She has moved out of their house and is staying with several friends for the next little while until some things are finalized. She certainly doesn’t have a fixed address and won’t for quite some time.
The daughter is still living at home, but doesn’t want to be there and is also staying with random friends most of the time so she doesn’t have to be at home. I think that if she received an invitation at the house while she wasn’t there, her dad wouldn’t give it to her.
I’d still like to invite my cousin and the daughter, but have no idea how to handle the invitation process anymore. I don’t want to seem completely self-absorbed and go on talking about my wedding when their family is falling apart, but I do want them to know that they’re invited in case other family do receive their invitations and happen to mention it.
Do you think it would be okay to hold off on mailing their invitations? I was thinking I would email both of them in a week or two and let them know that I have invitations for them, but wasn’t sure where to send them. I could give them the details that they would need for the wedding (date, time, location) in the email and if they want to give me an address, I would send it out. Does that seem okay? I really don’t want to be insensitive to the situation.
Also, for my cousin, I think it’s a pretty safe bet that her husband wouldn’t be coming, but I’m not 100% sure. If, by some miracle, they do get back together before November, he would be invited to the wedding. I was thinking of sending the invitation to my just my cousin and giving her a +1. That way, she can either bring her husband or a friend if she needs some extra support. Honestly, I don’t even think she’ll come now that this has all happened, but I want her to know that she’s invited.