Invitations-Are they worth it?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
917 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

One of my concerns with real lace is the added bulk inside the envelopes. Depending on what kind you choose, it can make it just a bit too thick to get through the machines and cause trouble. If your heart is set on it, though, I don’t see the harm. Just know that you’re giving yourself a BOALOAD of extra work. I’ve spent the evening addressing save the dates for our medium/large wedding and feel like I’ve barely made a dent. And that’s just addressing them!

Post # 4
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t think it’s worth it! When we went through and maade our priorities when we first ot engaged nice invitations was nowhere on the list. So they weren’t iimporant to me. But if it’s really important to you and your future hubby, then I’m sure you could manage it.

Post # 5
7282 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Do you keep wedding invites from others? I know I don’t. They usually end up in the recycle bin the day after the wedding.

I personally think invitations are more for the bride than anyone else.

If you want a special invitation and have the budget to do it then why not. If you don’t care and/or don’t have the budget for it then definately find something within your budget that you like. Guests really wont care and if they do judge you for having an invite within your budget then they aren’t being good friends/relatives.

Post # 6
457 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I had this idea that I was going to make this really nice enclosure, and glue all of our invites to a really nice cardstock that matched our invitations. And then I started thinking about all of the work it involved– nope. Not for me. And I only had to send out 25 envelopes for everyone we were inviting. If I were going to do something like that, I would have rather spent money on something like Etsy cards instead.

And as PP have said, I don’t think anyone cares that much, outside of the bride and maybe immediate family.


Post # 7
229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’s not worth it, but it is hard to give up! Spend your money where you will have the greatest impact. 


Post # 8
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I just hand wrapped 100 kraft invitations with doilies. No one will care about them as much I did but at the time it seemed so important. Now just 2 weeks later, I’m kinda meh.


People are going to toss, crumple and lose my handmade invitations…

Post # 9
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think lace graphics are pretty actually, and your piece I lace will get trashed immediately. While I keep invitations and info cards at least until after a wedding, I never keep the embellishment.  What am I suppose to do with it? Wear it as a headband? 😉 but don’t get me wrong i wrapped mine with coral twine! Much cheaper than lace though :). I first also did a belly band lace punch, got halfway through and my punch wore out (after like 50!) so I returned it and bagged that idea entirely. 

Post # 10
2546 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Totally not worth it. Invitations go in the trash as soon as I come back from the wedding and no longer need the reminding.

Post # 11
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Depends on what value you put on them. I love paper so I knew I wanted what I wanted. 

Post # 12
6273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think lace and burlap graphics would be a lot more appropriate for an invitation than actual lace and burlap–and even if yours looked amazing, it would still take forever and might be a PITA when it comes time to mail them off.

I definitely encourage you to do your table numbers and cute signs like that, though.

Post # 13
805 posts
Busy bee

If you have better places to spend the money then maybe it’s better to use it elsewhere. Before I got engaged, I wouldn’t remember a single stylistic detail about any wedding invitation I recieved!

Post # 14
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

most people throw invitations away. i designed my own and ordered mine through vistaprint.

for 100 invitations, 100 response cards, 100 information cards, return envelope for response card with address printed, invitation envelope with address printed on back, and 200 thank you cards (yes extra for the future), cost me $275.

i even upgraded all the paper stock.


Post # 15
852 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am doing lace, I’ve bought a ton from a bargain bin at a local fabric shop and my girls and I are going to sped a nice evening eating treats and drinking pink champage while we put them together. It wont cost a fortune because I managed to get the stuff cheap and it will be a great evening. But my friends and I are all crafty people who will love doing it and will apreciate the results.

Depends what you enjoy doing, how much it will cost and how YOU would like to see the invites looking.

Post # 16
1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

Though they can look nice, it’s a lot of added work and stress for you, and as others point out, it can cause difficulties when it’s going through sorting machines, depending on the thickness (and depending on how much your envelope weighs, along with additional inserts, it can mean extra postage).

Honestly, I just went and printed out our invitations after buying the DIY home kits. They looked good enough. It took a little practice to figure out how to format and position them correctly, but in the end they worked out perfectly. Most people toss out the invitations anyway (I know I do. I kept a copy of one of ours) or they just get stuck into a photo album to be seen years later anyhow. I just don’t think they’re worth the budget, the stress and the time of making them.


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