Post # 1
My husband and I are celebrating our 25th wedding anniversary September 2013. We did not have a wedding when we 1st married, so we went to the courthouse. Our kids have been pusing for a wedding so we decided that the 25th Anniversary would be great.
Here’s my issue:
Last year my husband turned 50. I went all out with his birthday party. Preparing for and expecting 100 people. Maybe half actually showed up. Even his only brother didn’t bother to come. Only sibling in fact. We had a great time anyway, but I am still very upset about it.
Should I invite the people who assured me they were coming? Many of them didn’t have the decency to provide an excuse for the no show. We are having a plated dinner at the reception. Needless to say, we are paying per person. Thoughts?
Post # 3
I would say limit your invitation list to those closest and the most reliable. I realize that siblings fall into an awkward “close, but not reliable” category. Is there any way, since he is involved in planning this event, that he can call them and be straight with them that you two already paid for one party that they bailed on after RSVPing yes to, so you would appreciate it if they could be honest with you?
It may sound a bit harsh, and it may be for some relationships. I know I could have that kind of conversation with my siblings because they are my siblings. Anyone else, not so much.
Post # 4
I completely agree with LibertyBelle!
And side note: That really sucks that people say ‘yes’ and then doesn’t show up. Grr, boo hiss!
Post # 5
@LibertyBelle: Thanks for the advice. Here’s the thing. He has left the entire guest list in my hands. So if I choose not to invite them, I’ll be the bad guy.
Post # 6
@Hippos: A couple of people confirmed the day before and still didn’t show up.
Post # 7
@cmbaggs: Hmmm. Well, I don’t know what else to say. I would assume that they would be less likely to skip out on a more formal affair like a vow renewal than a birthday bash. At least, I hope that would be the case. Even if you invite them, do you think your husband could follow up and let them know that if they can’t make it, that’s okay, but that you will need an honest RSVP?