Invitations.. how far in advance should you send them out?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@birdy88:  I would send your A list 12 weeks out with a 4 week rsvp date and maybe your B list 8 weeks out so you have your final count 4 weeks out from the wedding. 

Are you sending save the dates? (this is not a common thing where i’m from so not sure if it’s the norm in your area)

Post # 4
8282 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’d do 8 weeks for the A list… Then 6 weeks for the B list. 

Just keep in mind if people mention that they got your invite, but others didn’t, the B list people might figure it all out. 

Post # 5
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@birdy88:  It depends on how fast your A list responds.  We only have one list.  And RSVP’s have been trickling in slooooowly for the past 3 weeks now with only 2 declines.  So if your goal is to space the A and B’s enough so you can get enough declines first, I would put at least a month in between.

Post # 6
3 posts
  • Wedding: October 2017

I would send the A list out at 8 weeks before the wedding and B list 4 weeks before the wedding…You will need to strategically date them so you can have enough time to give venue/caterers final head count, which is usually somewhere between 7-14 days before the wedding


Post # 7
60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I don’t even know if my answer will help at all. Here we send out invitations WAY earlier than the rest of the world it seems haha. Normally people here don’t send save the dates, but send invitations 4 months before the wedding. That would give lots of time to hear replies, send the ‘B’ list (maybe 2.5 months early?) and hear from them. Then you can give your numbers a week ahead of the wedding.

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