Post # 1
So yeah, I’m in Texas right now planning our wedding and the one thing I have asked of my dear hubby is to get the addresses for his side of the guest list. He’s been procrastinating and finally I told him I HAD to have them. I got the funniest and I’ll admit very annoying answer of “Uhhh… I don’t think we need that many invitations because I was just going to text my family. Possibly call or email… He trailed off while I screeched on about the fact that I needed an accurate yes and no list for food and alcohol and what the hell was he thinking…
Uuugh has he ever been to a wedding? Ever!? I’m starting to think not…
Oh he also thought that the dance floor was way too expensive (which I’ll agree with) and that a DJ seemed over the top. I have a very strict budget, all of which is coming out of my parents pocket and not his. I suppose people are just supposed to sit there and stare at each other over cake. Oh Oh and best of all 14 weeks before the wedding his sister dropped out of being a bridesmaid with not so much as a sorry. The dresses my maid of honor picked out are backordered and won’t be in for 12 weeks… 2 weeks before the wedding with barely enough time for alterations! He doesn’t understand why I’m upset… now I have to find somebody and beg for them to be my bridesmaid (okay okay I’m exaggerating I have friends, but still!)
I can tell you one thing… its very lucky for him that we’re 10 states apart right now or I might just have to seriously hurt him. I love him but really… WTF!?
Post # 3
He was just being eco-friendly! Haha jk, guys are funny sometimes.
Post # 4
What a guy….
That definitely would be the icing on the cake but how great that one day you will so get a kick out of it… and tell the same story with a very different connotation 😉
Post # 5
Boy I hope so… cause I’m annoyed as hell with him right now!
Post # 6
He’s just being silly. I’m pretty sure my husband would’ve texted his friends if i hadn’t strong-armed the addresses out of him. He actually just invited a few friends over the phone. Guys are just WAY more laid back than girls. Deep breaths!
Post # 7
HAHA I bet FH wants to text his friends too! He hasnt even gotten my addresses yet and ive been asking since oct! Lucky for me 1 is on FB so I asked him myself and asked FMIL myself for the family’s
Post # 8
Try not to scream at him. As frustrating as it is for you he probably just really didn’t understand the whole reasons behind sending the invites out. My FH’s family were surprised to get invites for the same reasons! One of them actually said to me “Oh, I lost it, but I knew all the details anyways so you didn’t need to send me one”. *headdesk*
Post # 9
I think it was the invitation stuff on top of all the other things that happened that day that just about sent me over the edge. Luckily I have an appointment with the wedding coordinator today and he always calms me down when I’m stressing!
Post # 10
My FI wants to hand deliver the invitations to his friends 6 month before the wedding, ummmm yeah I am pretty sure a 25 yr old guy would lose it within 10 minutes. Some things guys just do not get!!!!!!
Post # 11
Oh man, I feel your pain. I bothered my husband about getting addresses for THREE MONTHS. Finally I asked his sister, who had them to me in two days.
Seriously, I had a lot of fun planning our wedding, but my husband was probably one fo the biggest stressors at the time, and I can count the number of things I asked him to do on one hand (get addresses, hire a DJ, send off the hotel paperwork, pick up your tux, and show up). In the end, I did 2.5 of those things.
What I finally figured out was that he really really didn’t care about the wedding. Not to say he didn’t care about me, but I wanted the wedding, while he just wanted to commit ourselves to each other. Sweet, but holy hell I wanted to kill him sometimes. Good luck! 🙂
Post # 12
My FH suggested email… luckily he lives closer and I was able to SHOW him the invites we had received for this summer. Good luck getting everything done before your wedding.
Post # 13
haha, tell him to text his friends for their addresses! 🙂
Don’t let this stuff get to you. Us girls are really into wedding planning, but I get the feeling that my FI is a little lost sometimes.
I bought FI this book: http://www.amazon.com/Engaged-Groom-Youre-Getting-Married/dp/0060855827
He thought it was funny and did lay out the general norms of wedding planning.
Post # 14
Wow! Sounds like a typical guy. My FI is pretty clueless as far as wedding planning goes, so he just stays out of it. My dad however, is a totally different story. He wants to know why we don’t just go to the JP, why we’re getting married at a conference center at the beach “because it’s just frickin’ weird”, why is there going to be music because he doesn’t want to dance, and why can’t we just order a cake from the Kroger’s bakery?
I feel your pain. Men+Wedding Planning= completely frustrating.
Post # 15
He’s just being silly…like MANY guys do! Also, friends who haven’t planned a wedding tend to act this way as well. People do not seem to realize all that goes into a wedding, I know I didn’t until I planned mine 🙂
Post # 16
Oh man, that sucks. Thankfully, I have a wonderful FMIL who already sent me addresses from their side of the family!
My FI actually said to me a few weeks ago – “why don’t we send out in invitations now?” WHAT? We are over a year out from our wedding date! We have locations for our ceremony and reception, but nothing else is finalized! No times or other details that we need to include on an invite. He thought that would give us a good idea about who can attend and who can’t – well who knows what can happen in a year – we would STILL have to send out something closer to the date to remind everyone not to forget to come! Needless to say I shot down that idea quickly. Crazy boy hahaha….so he now understands the purpose of STDs and why those will be what everyone gets in the next little while here with the invitations sent much closer to the wedding!
Good luck with your FI 🙂 I am sure it will all get done and be wonderful – regardless of how clueless he is right now!