Invitations – to post or to hand?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

As long as you don’t do it around people who aren’t invited, I think hand delivering them is fine. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Hm.  I mean, you CAN hand them to them; I don’t think it’s actually rude.  But I personally think it’s nicer to mail them.  How tight is your budget?  I really wanted to have all of mine go through the mail, so I mailed them all, including the one for my FSIL who lives with us and my neighbor who lives on the same property as us lol.  It just seems more official that way.  And receiving things in the mail is always exciting 🙂

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@mepayne:  Agree. I’m in Australia too and I’m hand delivering about half. It’s fine! You can call them “My Lady” and “Sir” when you hand them to people if you want to be fancy.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

As a general rule, doing things personally for your friends is more gracious and polite than hiring the job out and just paying for it. So, handing an invitation to your friend in person is more gracious than sending it through the commercial letter-handling system. But it must be done appropriately: you must be seeing your intended guest socially — it is not appropriate to hand out wedding invitations at work — and you must find some chance to be private with your intended guest so that no-one else, and especially no-one who is not himself invited, has a chance to overhear or observe the exchange. No need to try to be fancy, especially if flowery titles are not part of your normal style: it makes you look phoney; but if you do decide to be formal, the feminine counterpart of “sir” is “ma’am”.

On a separate matter, if you like receiving notes in the mail, start sending more notes out. The trend might catch on. You can write to tell friends that you are thinking of them; write to tell them about the newest book you read, write to ask their opinion on some matter, write to declare undying love — nearly anything!

 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I waaaas joking with the flowery titles suggestion 😉

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

Hand delivering is okay, especially if you see those people on a regular basis.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

 @Missy_Star: 

I’ve seen this post a few times but I’ll say the same thing I’ve said before: giving it by hand is fine so long as you are careful about who you are around – if you are around any acquaintance or friend who is not getting an invite do not do it in person or it could cause drama and/or hurt feelings for the person that isn’t invited.

 

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