Post # 1
Since we are having a sit down dinner at the reception and that means we need an accurate “head count”, do you send an invitation to the Minister/Priest so they can return the RSVP? We aren’t sure what the correct procedure is. Does anyone have a suggestion?
Post # 3
hmm great question! I’m curious as well!
Post # 4
Yikes, we didn’t. We figured he’d want to go home to dinner with his wife….
Post # 5
Yeah we sent our priest an invitation. He didn’t return our RSVP, but he told us in our last pre-wedding meeting that he wouldn’t be at the reception. I just found it less awkward to mail an invitation than ask him face-to-face if he would be there. 🙂
Post # 6
Yes, I think it is the polite thing to do. Most priests/ministers will decline, but it is customary to invite them. If you know the person well, feel it out, but when in doubt go for the invite!
Post # 7
Yes, you are supposed to send an invitation to the officiant.
Post # 8
I’m making one especially for our Msgr. I’d really love him to come and also give a prayer before dinner is served.
Post # 9
We are also going to send one to our pastor because he is a really good friend of ours and we plan to have him at our reception.
Post # 10
I would send one out of courtesy. Most will not accept unless they are already close to you and your FI.
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2011 - Trinity Lutheran Church & Idlewild Country Club
My mom grew up in a small church, but I attend a large church so things may have changed from her wedding, but she said the pastor will marry us, and then typically go to the reception and say grace for our meal.
I guess this means that he would be eating with us? That means we’d probably send an invite to him, and I suppose his family as well.
Post # 12
We did….I think he has to perform a mass after our ceremony and probably can’t make it, but we felt it was polite to invite him. I think that’s pretty common in the Catholic church.
Post # 13
We invited him to both the rehearsal dinner and reception but he’s known my fiance for awhile so it may depend in part by how close you are with them. But the safer side seems to be to invite and let them decide what they want to do.
Post # 14
We sent our priest an invite and they RSVPed and attended…. and he sang Mustang Sally at the reception. 🙂