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invitations too childish? Invitations too childish?

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    kmark    June 13, 2010   CT

    I love the idea of ordering invitations from simple difference: http://www.simpledifference.com/

    I showed them to my fiance and he said they were cute, but sort of childish (this has been an ongoing thing with us, as many of my ideas, such as colorful shoes with my dress, he thinks are childish and I consider playful and fun). What do you guys think of these invitations? I think they are so great because they allow us to really personalize the invitations in a way that those that know and love us will appreciate. We will both be 23 by our wedding date. I know he is afraid his family thinks we are too young to get married and he doesn't want to give them more ammunition by throwing a "childish" wedding, but honestly we are young and I want to have fun with these little wedding details! what do you guys think- I need some outside, unbiased opinions!

     
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    july112010    July 11, 2010   los angeles

    What type of wedding are you having? Formal or informal? Evening or noon? Personally im not really a fan of those, and I might think they were a little cheesy if I received them as an invite. I think if you are having a more informal wedding and you just love them, I say do what you want. Also, another thing to think about though is your fiances opinion. I think if he is unhappy with them you should find something else.

     
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    Hmmm.  Well I agree, you need to ake sure it fits with the style of your wedding. Hnestly, I see both points.  On the one hand I don't want you to feel like you can't have the wedidng you want.  (And perhaps if you were both older it wouldn't be fueling the firs about your age.)  I could see why they might come across negatively to some guests.  But I think moreoever, it doesn't seem like your FI likes them.  And it's his wedding too.  Maybe try to come up with a compromise.

     
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    simpleandchic    November 27, 2010   Adelaide, South Australia

    Those invites are not my taste either, But its not my opinion that matters, however it doesn't seem to be your Fi's taste either so maybe you need to compromise and look at other invites.

    What is your wedding theme and colours, Maybe you can show your funside by using bright candy colours like yellow, blue and pink. Simple yet bright and colourful invitations can look Fab.

    P.S as for coloured shoes I love them!

     
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    JamaicaBride    May 14, 2011   Charlotte, NC

    I don't really care for those for a wedding. I would use them for a bridal shower or maybe an informal engagement party but I wouldn't do that for a wedding.

    p.s. I am also definitely a fan of having the colored shoes

     
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    kmark    June 13, 2010   CT

    Thanks for the advice (and the support about the colored shoes... actually he is coming around about that since I have been showing him posts of others who have done it and he sees its not that crazy). We are having a pretty casual Sunday afternoon wedding. There are some designs on the company's website that are a little more traditional, like this one for a commitment ceremony: http://www.simpledifference.com/invitescomm.aspx which I like better and maybe would be less over the top. I am a corny, silly sort of person, definitely a child inside, which is why I think its funny that FI keeps saying he doesn't want things to be childish because I am such a child inside and honestly I think he likes that about me but is worried more about what his family would think. I know compromise is the way to go on this, I guess sometimes I need weddingbee to keep me from being bridezilla about what I want. Maybe we can do something like this for a STD and make the invitation more traditional.

     
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    QueenBecca037    04.05.09   Atlanta, GA

    Like you just said, I think they'd be fine for a STD, but not for an invitation.  They are too informal, and a cartoon just kind of suggests the marriage isn't being taken seriously (I know you ARE taking it seriously, but a cartoon invite doesn't convey that really)

     
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    stripes    September 2010  

    Absolutely yes to colored shoes.

    Not so sure about the invitations though- maybe STDs?

     

    We're having a vintage/modern/casual/fun wedding and plan to send STD's that have cartoon/caricatures on them...

    but we really want our invites to be a little more sophisticated.

    Go with what makes you the happiest, and make sure your fiance is happy too- after all it's just as much his wedding as it is yours! :)

     
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    LorennaL    LorennaL   Boston, MA

    The commitment ceremony design is a nice compromise between the fun caricatures and the traditional style invitations, I think.  I do agree that the invitations on the homepage of the website seem inappropriate for a wedding invitation, though they would make a nice STD. Definitely try to compromise with your fiance.  You want him to be as excited and proud of the invitations as you are.

     
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    ashleyjane    1/16/2010   Tampa, FL

    I think it depends on the formality of your wedding. These invitations are pretty informal. As for the shoes, my shoes are royal blue and I love them... since they're on your feet I think you should do whatever you want with those:)

     
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    ToniPhil2010    April 17, 2010   Los Angeles

    It depends on the style of the wedding.  I would say talk to him and see if he has an idea too. Maybe you can come up with something together.

     
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    Jenniphyr    February 2, 2013   Alberta, Canada

    My fiance has said the same thing about some of my ideas! (Most notably, having a picnic wedding & cupcakes.) My inner (okay, outer!) childish-ness is a big part of me, and he totally loves me for it, so like you I was really hurt and confused when he knocked my ideas because they were "childish". It turned out we just needed to talk and compromise! His big concern was that he wanted his relatives to enjoy our wedding (they expect more tradition, for sure), and he wanted it to be elegant. So we are having an "elegant" picnic, and staying within our $5K budget. : )

    Long and short I suppose is that you'll find invites that you both love -- maybe look out for some that have a smaller characature off to the side or something, rather than the whole front of the card (ex. have a plain front or a picture of you two on the front, and then inside, you could have a small cartoon at the bottom of the invite). Mrs. Cream Puff draws AWESOME cartoon-yous!

     
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    BellaMae      

    Those are fun.  But better for a bridal shower or something.  Not very wedding-y to me.

     
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    cheerful    September 2009 - eloped  

    It really depends on the style of the wedding because the invitations set the tone. If your FI is afraid of giving his family ammunition, I'd respect that view. You can have many details you want at the wedding itself without listening to two months + of complaints about your invitations, you know?

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    I think these are really cute for an engagement announcement or a std.  It's not my cup of tea either for an invite, but they are cute.

     

     
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    GaBGal    September 25, 2010  

    I agree with the other posters. Not really my choice and I can understand your FI's hesitation.... I like the idea of using these as a save the date though!

     

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