Since you guys are paying for the majority with a bit of help from your dad, you can go a few ways without it being complicated….technically you only need to list the HOSTS of the wedding (you, FI, and dad if you want).
Since FI’s parents are not paying and the mom isnt coming it would be weird to list her if she isnt there (ppl will think the stepmom is mom), and if you dont list her ppl may think she has passed on (if they dont know FI’s family) just all kinds of drama…
daughter of mr. scotssdale (and if you wish to say … the late Mrs. scottsdale)
Fiance of scottsdalebride
request the honor of your presence at their joining of hands….. blah blah….
requests the honour of your presence at the marriage of his daughter
Fiance of Scottsdalebride
Scottsdalebride and fiance of scottsdalebride
request the honour of your presence on their day of marriage
please join together with our families on ………………………….
Im actually going through this right now (I just got my notification from zazzle my invites are being shipped today lol) but basically Im expecting FI’s parents to possibly be upset they arnt on the invite, however they are not hosting this event in any way. NOW, that isnt the exact reason we chose not to have parents on it (we did the join with families) the issue is theres so many freakin names (stepparents etc) it looked totally RIDICULOUS, and didnt fit. I included only the needed info and still putting in the names bumped like 2-3 lines of my reception info to the back of the invite and well…sorry, thats not happening.
so…. as FI and I are paying the full bill, we just have our names. I do have a print of a combination of all the typical ediq that Im prepared to show FIL’s if they say anything. They are used to seeing names, but they have to understand that those parents either paid for, or helped pay the majority of the bill…..