(Closed) Invitations – Who’s name goes first, the Bride or Groom?

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I suppose you can do whatever you please, it’s your wedding.  But if you want the proper etiquette answer, typically the bride’s name is listed first.  Traditionally, this was because the parents of the bride sent the invitations and paid for the wedding.  But times, they are a changing!  Our parents are contributing to the wedding, and we are paying for the bulk, but I still plan to have my name before my groom’s on the invitation and any logo/initial aspects.

Post # 5
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2682 posts
Sugar bee

Ive always seen the brides name first followed by the grooms name, I think thats what proper etiquette is as Vaness said it was because usually the brides parents were paying for it.  You can obviously put whatever name you like first but Im partial to the brides because that is what Im used to.

Post # 6
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4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

You know, I’ve never really thought about it much, but I’ve always seen the bride’s name listed first. I don’t think I’ve ever seen it the other way around! Of course, you can absolutely do whatever you want! 🙂

Post # 7
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71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I didnt think anything of it when I did our invites. People usually refer to us as “evan and kate” so I figured his name should go better because it just sounds better. Apparently a big etiquette/tradition faux pas but whatevs

Post # 8
Hostess
13662 posts
Honey Beekeeper

In just about all wedding-related things, the bride comes first. But truly, it doesn’t matter.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I hadn’t ever really thought about it but when speaking in general I think we usually alphabetize names…. even in couples.

Like the others said I think wedding invites are usually Bride first but I’d just put what sounds better..

Post # 10
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14750 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Before the wedding brides first, after the wedding then it’s the grooms.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I wanted to alphabetize (him first, by either first or last name) but he wanted to put me first on the invitation.  We ended up putting me first.  Do whatever you want, I wouldn’t bat an eye either way.

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