so a wonderful friend of mine did my invitations for me for free! she showed me a mock up about a month ago and the FH and i both loved them! so we gave her the green light to go ahead and print them out...
she notified me that she finished them and sent me a teaser picture...while they still look amazing the colors are completley different than the sample that got from her a month ago...the only issue is that:
they are in colors that i would never have chosen
one of the colors she used as a primary color isn't even incorporated in any of our decor plans
so i'm wondering what i should do...i know for sure that i can't say anything to her...but i feel really bad about things and feel like now i have to completely rethink some of my other decisions...should i just not worry about it and keep going with my original plans since invitations are a small thing? or should i start thinking of ways to incorporate this other color into the rest of the wedding?
how much do your invitations match with your overall wedding theme? now ours have our wedding color and one other random color.
You can really ask her to change the colors... it is a click of a mouse and i am sure she wouldn't mind adjusting it to be closer to the the original sample or colors you would prefer.
If you like the random color however, it can definitely be just in the invitation if it makes it look amazing and you LIKE it. Your guests will not be bringing the invitations with them to match to your napkins and flowers I promise.
Do you mind telling us what color she incorporated and what colors you are using for your wedding? some colors are easier to "incorporate" than others.
My invites match exactly to my wedding theme/colors. We specifically designed them that way. But as vyeta stated above, no one will really compare your invitation to your actual wedding colors but its something YOU have to comfortable around b/c YOU know that it doesn't match.
I had the same issue when I asked a friend to design our invites. I had high hopes, but I was disappointed when I got the design. When asking my friends for advice, they all said that I either needed to tell her the truth and specify exactly what needed to change, or that I needed to just not use her services. It sounds like for you, it's a matter of a color change. You say that you can't say anything to her -- why not? It's expected that you would want to change something like the color if it doesn't match your wedding. I would just ask her to just change it! Say, "Wow, this design is great. I really like XX. But could you change this color to XX?" Most designers would be fine with feedback like that. Don't rethink your entire wedding just to avoid confrontation!
our colors are white, green, and a deep red...we're using green cymbidium orchids and the bmaids dresses are deep red/maroon...our centerpieces are wheatgrass in dark wood boxes (the reception chairs are dark wood) with mixed red rose petals...the chairs and runner are white for the ceremony...we still haven't figured out how to line the aisle though...
the design of the invites are white and green...originally she was going to do the invitation on pink paper and the inserts on white (thats the sample i have)....for the final printing the invitation was done on pink paper and the inserts were done on green paper....to me it just makes it seems as though the wedding is pink and green (which i realize is popular but i don't personally like together)...i realize this is a small issue...she mentioned that when she went to purchase the paper for printing the white they had wasn't really white and it was sort of bronze so she figured she'd go with the green....
i guess i just freaked out when the picture she sent me was completely different than what i expected...since they've all been printed there's not much that can be done...i mean the overall design is still what we wanted and loved so i understand that things could be worse...
To me, the fact that it's your friend who did the invitations makes all the diffference in the world. If a _vendor_ prints out something different than the proof, then by all means you can ask for a change, but, when it's a friend, I would not, especially if she did it as a favor for you free of charge or at a discount.
I agree with your instinct to let it go. I would also recommend keeping your wedding colors as-is and not trying to coordinate with the invitation, since you don't like it much anyway.....no reason to compound the problem by extending your less-than-favorite color scheme or to complicate things by rethinking decisions.
(One other idea, though....could you have someone else print the inserts only on the paper you like? Then you could send one as she made it to her & anyone who knows her, and the one you like to others. Maybe that's too logistically difficult; I dunno.)
I would appreciate the feedback, especially those that are coming from a dear friend whose invitations I have worked on. That said, I think your friend may have taken a bit of license to expand on the design choices. And if this is the case, and all is printed, I would recommend not stressing over it.
Speaking as a designer, sometimes it's a challenge to find a perfect match of colors that brides choose. A shade of tiffany blue at one print shop may be completely different at another. But as long as it's within the same family of colors, it's not too much of a deal. After all, she is a dear friend, right? She may not have done exactly what you have wanted, but she volunteered to design it, and it takes a heck of a lot of work to design, print, cut, crop, and package invitations. (I do this as a business, so I know how much work it involves.)
In the end, none of your guests will even remember what shade the invites are because they will be there to have a good time and to witness you stepping into a new part of your life. Take a deep breath, relax, and enjoy the rest of the wedding planning. Don't get bogged down by the minor details. You'll be a happier bride that way!
ok so i completely thought i was over this...and i realize its not that big a deal but for some reason its still bothering me so i'm looking for suggestions...
i guess the biggest thing is that pink/green are my sorority colors and it just seems cheesy to me, and that i don't really like pink that much....so someone suggested i add some sort of red tissue paper or something to wrap them in but i'm not sure if that'll be too much...
i'm open to anything, as well as people saying to just get over it and move on....
Maybe you can incorporate red into the invites with a ribbon or the envelopes. You can also back the invites with red paper, maybe leaving a quarter inch all the way around
Ah, no, that makes sense that you would feel weird if they were your sorority colors! I think Miss Pineapple is on to something here -- I would try to incorporate red where ever possible (red envelope liners, a red inner envelope, red ink to address them, a red stamp? Not all of the above, of course. But just a few ideas.). Good luck!
I still think the inserts can be reprinted especially if you offer to cover the cost or maybe even go to the print shop yourself. However adding red envelope liner or a red bellyband would make all the difference too.
I think adding the red accents is a great idea. I also think that if it really bugs you, you should see what you can do to get them reprinted. However, since your friend covered all the costs the first time around, as well as supplying all the time and labor, I would offer to go to the store with her to look for the right paper, and I would offer to pay for the replacement supplies, so that she's not out the money for the ones that are just going to go in the trash. Maybe she's right, and when you see the white it won't look right to you either; maybe you can find another color that you like better than the pink. The important thing is that if you ask her to do them over you need to be sufficiently involved to make sure they turn out okay with you this time, and that she doesn't end up feeling like she has spent money that's just going in the garbage. You know?
I was worried about the invitation matching the wedding colors for a while too, but then I decided that for us, it does not mater. Also, people aren't going to compare the invite to everything else. Our fall wedding will have orange, yellow colors for the flowers and centerpieces, and it matches the colors of the venue. But we are doing our invitations in navy blue and moss green because I just really fell in love with the design and the colors. I was afraid of "too many colors", but I decided that if I just pick things i like, it will all be fine. My MOH had the best advice for me, and that is that your wedding should be about having all of your favorite things. If you like it, do it.
so a wonderful friend of mine did my invitations for me for free! she showed me a mock up about a month ago and the FH and i both loved them! so we gave her the green light to go ahead and print them out...
she notified me that she finished them and sent me a teaser picture...while they still look amazing the colors are completley different than the sample that got from her a month ago...the only issue is that:
so i'm wondering what i should do...i know for sure that i can't say anything to her...but i feel really bad about things and feel like now i have to completely rethink some of my other decisions...should i just not worry about it and keep going with my original plans since invitations are a small thing? or should i start thinking of ways to incorporate this other color into the rest of the wedding?
how much do your invitations match with your overall wedding theme? now ours have our wedding color and one other random color.
posted by zztp 4 posts 6 months agoYou can really ask her to change the colors... it is a click of a mouse and i am sure she wouldn't mind adjusting it to be closer to the the original sample or colors you would prefer.
If you like the random color however, it can definitely be just in the invitation if it makes it look amazing and you LIKE it. Your guests will not be bringing the invitations with them to match to your napkins and flowers I promise.
posted by vyeta7 170 posts 6 months agoi think the invitations are printed right??
Do you mind telling us what color she incorporated and what colors you are using for your wedding? some colors are easier to "incorporate" than others.
My invites match exactly to my wedding theme/colors. We specifically designed them that way. But as vyeta stated above, no one will really compare your invitation to your actual wedding colors but its something YOU have to comfortable around b/c YOU know that it doesn't match.
posted by Amy 210 posts 6 months agoI had the same issue when I asked a friend to design our invites. I had high hopes, but I was disappointed when I got the design. When asking my friends for advice, they all said that I either needed to tell her the truth and specify exactly what needed to change, or that I needed to just not use her services. It sounds like for you, it's a matter of a color change. You say that you can't say anything to her -- why not? It's expected that you would want to change something like the color if it doesn't match your wedding. I would just ask her to just change it! Say, "Wow, this design is great. I really like XX. But could you change this color to XX?" Most designers would be fine with feedback like that. Don't rethink your entire wedding just to avoid confrontation!
posted by rebecca 989 posts 6 months agoour colors are white, green, and a deep red...we're using green cymbidium orchids and the bmaids dresses are deep red/maroon...our centerpieces are wheatgrass in dark wood boxes (the reception chairs are dark wood) with mixed red rose petals...the chairs and runner are white for the ceremony...we still haven't figured out how to line the aisle though...
the design of the invites are white and green...originally she was going to do the invitation on pink paper and the inserts on white (thats the sample i have)....for the final printing the invitation was done on pink paper and the inserts were done on green paper....to me it just makes it seems as though the wedding is pink and green (which i realize is popular but i don't personally like together)...i realize this is a small issue...she mentioned that when she went to purchase the paper for printing the white they had wasn't really white and it was sort of bronze so she figured she'd go with the green....
i guess i just freaked out when the picture she sent me was completely different than what i expected...since they've all been printed there's not much that can be done...i mean the overall design is still what we wanted and loved so i understand that things could be worse...
posted by zztp 4 posts 6 months agoTo me, the fact that it's your friend who did the invitations makes all the diffference in the world. If a _vendor_ prints out something different than the proof, then by all means you can ask for a change, but, when it's a friend, I would not, especially if she did it as a favor for you free of charge or at a discount.
I agree with your instinct to let it go. I would also recommend keeping your wedding colors as-is and not trying to coordinate with the invitation, since you don't like it much anyway.....no reason to compound the problem by extending your less-than-favorite color scheme or to complicate things by rethinking decisions.
(One other idea, though....could you have someone else print the inserts only on the paper you like? Then you could send one as she made it to her & anyone who knows her, and the one you like to others. Maybe that's too logistically difficult; I dunno.)
Anyway, sorry and good luck!
posted by maryalison 105 posts 6 months agoHold out and see what they look like in person.....perhaps the photo she took doesn't accurately portray what the colors really look like!
posted by cupcake 274 posts 6 months agoI've been to many weddings where the invitations did not match the wedding. If they look good and they are free -- go for it!
posted by caliocteach 720 posts 6 months agoI would appreciate the feedback, especially those that are coming from a dear friend whose invitations I have worked on. That said, I think your friend may have taken a bit of license to expand on the design choices. And if this is the case, and all is printed, I would recommend not stressing over it.
Speaking as a designer, sometimes it's a challenge to find a perfect match of colors that brides choose. A shade of tiffany blue at one print shop may be completely different at another. But as long as it's within the same family of colors, it's not too much of a deal. After all, she is a dear friend, right? She may not have done exactly what you have wanted, but she volunteered to design it, and it takes a heck of a lot of work to design, print, cut, crop, and package invitations. (I do this as a business, so I know how much work it involves.)
In the end, none of your guests will even remember what shade the invites are because they will be there to have a good time and to witness you stepping into a new part of your life. Take a deep breath, relax, and enjoy the rest of the wedding planning. Don't get bogged down by the minor details. You'll be a happier bride that way!
posted by fubabee 28 posts 6 months agook so i completely thought i was over this...and i realize its not that big a deal but for some reason its still bothering me so i'm looking for suggestions...
i guess the biggest thing is that pink/green are my sorority colors and it just seems cheesy to me, and that i don't really like pink that much....so someone suggested i add some sort of red tissue paper or something to wrap them in but i'm not sure if that'll be too much...
i'm open to anything, as well as people saying to just get over it and move on....
posted by zztp 4 posts 6 months agoMaybe you can incorporate red into the invites with a ribbon or the envelopes. You can also back the invites with red paper, maybe leaving a quarter inch all the way around
posted by pineapple 61 posts 6 months agoAh, no, that makes sense that you would feel weird if they were your sorority colors! I think Miss Pineapple is on to something here -- I would try to incorporate red where ever possible (red envelope liners, a red inner envelope, red ink to address them, a red stamp? Not all of the above, of course. But just a few ideas.). Good luck!
posted by rebecca 989 posts 6 months agoI still think the inserts can be reprinted especially if you offer to cover the cost or maybe even go to the print shop yourself. However adding red envelope liner or a red bellyband would make all the difference too.
posted by vyeta7 170 posts 6 months agoI think adding the red accents is a great idea. I also think that if it really bugs you, you should see what you can do to get them reprinted. However, since your friend covered all the costs the first time around, as well as supplying all the time and labor, I would offer to go to the store with her to look for the right paper, and I would offer to pay for the replacement supplies, so that she's not out the money for the ones that are just going to go in the trash. Maybe she's right, and when you see the white it won't look right to you either; maybe you can find another color that you like better than the pink. The important thing is that if you ask her to do them over you need to be sufficiently involved to make sure they turn out okay with you this time, and that she doesn't end up feeling like she has spent money that's just going in the garbage. You know?
posted by suzanno 1,978 posts 6 months agoI was worried about the invitation matching the wedding colors for a while too, but then I decided that for us, it does not mater. Also, people aren't going to compare the invite to everything else. Our fall wedding will have orange, yellow colors for the flowers and centerpieces, and it matches the colors of the venue. But we are doing our invitations in navy blue and moss green because I just really fell in love with the design and the colors. I was afraid of "too many colors", but I decided that if I just pick things i like, it will all be fine. My MOH had the best advice for me, and that is that your wedding should be about having all of your favorite things. If you like it, do it.
posted by DrB 107 posts 6 months ago