Post # 1
So I’m working on addressing my invitations and have come across a couple of tricky situations.
My aunt and uncle have 3 kids, they all live at home, the oldest is a 20 year old girl , she’s in college and has a long term boyfriend (and long term as in they’re likely the next to get married in my family). I’m not sure on the ages of her 2 brothers, but I don’t think either are over 18. So etiquette says that I should send the girl her own invitation, which I would do with a guest so she can take her BF, but would it be awkward if her brothers were included in a ‘Family; invite with their parents?
Also, I’m having trouble figuring out how to address the invited to family units. I’m not doing an inner envelope and honestly, I don’t know some of the kids names, so far I’ve been putting Mr & Mrs James and Family. (I’m inviting some work people’s kids because one of the guys is saying he’d come and bring the baby, who is 2, I feel like it would be rude then to not invite other coworkers kids)
Any thoughts on how I should work through these?
Post # 3
@jimbert321: The 20 year old should get her own invite, especially if she is getting a guest. The boys should be put with their parents.
Mr and Mrs James And Family is fine, though you might want to include the Mr.’s first name if it’s formal. Our wedding is informal so we are doing The Smith Family.
Post # 4
FH’s brother has two teenage boys and a daughter who is 19, but she has a child of her own with her boyfriend. So I sent the daughter and her boyfriend and daughter an invitation of their own, and included the teenage sons in FH’s brother and wife’s invitation. I simply addressed the envelope to “Mr. and Mrs. B K” and included 5 on the RSVP- him, his wife, the two teenage boys, and the youngest son.
Post # 5
For the aunt, uncle and cousins, I would address them as follows:
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith (first line)
Jake and Joe Smith (second line)
then anothe rinvitation…..
Miss Jane Smith (first line)
Mr. Peter Jones (second line)
For others, I’d go with Mr. and Mrs. Mark Brown and Family OR The Brown Family
Post # 6
I have some similar situations (however I’m not inviting cousin’s kids – there are 25 of them!) so I did aunt & Uncle & family. or Couin & spouce or Cousin & guest. If they are in a long term relationship I did both their names Ms. first name last name & Mr. first name last name
Post # 7
Thanks Ladies, this helps so much!
We’re not having a formal affair so I think I’m going to revise to The James Family. I like the way it reads better.