Invite and STD etiquette?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2787 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@kansas_nurse:   There is no proper etiquette for save the dates, since they are actually more of a trend (not actually a neccissity, etiquette wise). Also you don’t need to put the venue on the STD…maybe the city location if it’s far away from most guests. 

As for invites, humm I don’t think your parents names need to go on the invite if they actually don’t pay for the wedding….

Post # 4
6948 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015


1) No set in stone rule for STD timelines. I’d say if they are going to possibly have to take a flight, I’d send them out 6 months in advance. If it’s just driving, maybe only 4?

2) You only need the city/state on the STD. The point is so out of town guests will know where they will need to travel to. It doesn’t really matter where the ceremony is. They can book a flight to the nearest airport & deal with hotels once your invitation comes. 

3) No. If your parents aren’t contributing you don’t need to put their names. It doesn’t mean you CAN’T put their names if you want to, but strictly speaking the invitation comes from the person throwing the party… so if you’re paying your name is the only one that needs to be on it. 

4) It is perfectly fine to have printed return RSVP envelopes. 

Post # 6
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013


1. i sent my STDs out 6 months in advance.  they are sent anywhere from 6-12 months in advance.

2. on my STDs i put the city and state where the wedding will take place.  this is pretty standard.  details information for time and exact location will go on the invitation.

3. you can do your invitations however you want.  typically the first line is the host, but you can say together with their families, or you can that you and the groom are hosting and inviting… see this link for different wording.

4. we ordered out invitations through vistaprint and were able to have our address printed on the fron of the envelopes for the address.  if you cannot do this, i would do labels.  i think it looks nicer than had written.


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