Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2014 - alder manor
Hi Bees, I really need to order my invites ASAP! ARGH! There has been a few concerns with my wording, but I think this is my last hurdle!
My venue is pretty strict with Ceremony start time, and will not allow for a late bride. If the Ceremony is to start at 4.30, it will. No if, ands, or buts….. that’s it. I’m concerned about people arriving late to our garden ceremony, entering to the right side to where we will be standing at the top, and being a distraction etc. It will upset me.
I have being considering addressing the invites for a 4pm start, and telling the cooridinator it is a 4.30 start, but we risk some people arriving early and having a long time to wait, and / or p!$$!ng off our cooridinator if she finds out. I’ve heard she can be difficult to deal with, her way or no way kind of deal.
How can I let people know, Ceremony will be starting on time, and to not arrive after the ceremony start time. Is there a way I can include that on the invite?
Ceremony and reception are being held at the same venue.
Post # 3
Just say ceremony will begin promptly at 4 o’clock
Post # 4
commenting to follow! I’ve been thinking about putting the start time 30 min early on the invite too. wondering how the outcome was for other bees who have done this!
Post # 5
People in general know to be on time. If they are not, have the coordinator stop them from entering the ceremony area if it is 430. You start at 430 no matter what. Don’t lie to your guests. It only punishes the functioning adults that arrive 10-15 minutes early (as most will) and then they have to wait 45 minutes for the real ceremony.
Post # 6
Our invitations had our actual start time on them, and we did start on time. I don’t think there were any stragglers running late, but if there were, our venue coordinator didn’t let them disrupt the ceremony.
Post # 7
@Merlin29: Are people that rude and thick to arrive LATE to a wedding or are you just over thinking this? I have not arrived late to a wedding. I always get their 20 minutes early or more.
I expect my guests to be adult and plan to arrive before I walk down the aisle. It’s too bad not everyone can expect the same.
You aren’t the first bride to be mulling this over but it always strikes me as odd. RUDE GUESTS!!! Argh!
Post # 8
You cannot start the ceremony a whole 30 minutes after the listed time. Who cares about the rude guests – that makes you an incredibly rude host. If I arrive half an hour early, you’ve now condemned me to wait around for an hour.
List the start time as 4:30pm and tell your venue to get the ball rolling by 4:40pm at the latest. Ten minutes is reasonable. Any more is not.
Post # 9
@Merlin29: “How can I let people know, Ceremony will be starting on time, and to not arrive after the ceremony start time. Is there a way I can include that on the invite?”
You list the start time on the invitation. If your guests are rude enough to arrive late to a wedding, do you really think that adding “no seriously guys, you really need to be there on time” will help?
Having your ceremony start half an hour is incredibly rude to your guests. Why would you want to punish the considerate people who arrive on time or early?
Post # 11
As someone who is always early, it would really annoy me to find out the ceremony starts 30 minutes after the invitation stated.
“Ceremony to begin promptly at 4:30pm” conveys the message perfectly. Those who are late assume the consequences.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2014 - alder manor
Here in NY it’s not unusual for guests to skip the church ceremony altogether and just go to the reception. I don’t like this, but it is done. People also expect the bride to be late, that is tradition, where I’m from at least, but the venue’s coordinator will not allow this period.
I do accept the fact that if I put done a differing start time it would be rude for the considerate guests that arrive ontime.
Post # 13
I would use the actual time.. if you put 4 and it starts at 4:30.. some guests might be angry because it’ll look like YOU are late for your OWN wedding.
Post # 14
I read on APW A practical wedding that start time should be 15 minutes after the stated invite to accomodate late arrivals. Some guests will show up as much 30 minutes before the ceremony.
Post # 15
We listed 4pm, put out some iced tea and lemonade (outdoor summer wedding), and planned on an actual start time of 4:20.
I think 30 minutes is too long, but maybe you can arrange for a 15-minute buffer instead?
Post # 16
@Merlin29: I am an early guest because I think a bride has a schedule to keep. Have refrrshments for people like me. Once thr ceremony is underway post a sign at the guest entrance “Quiet please. ceremony in Progress, please proceed to xyz”
“Xyz could be another entrance or cocktail hour at x time”