Post # 1
My father has a large family, and I’ve spent most of my life on the east coast while they live in Cali. My cousins in cali are all spoiled, rude, annoying teenage brats. The aunts and uncles aren’t much different. Everytime I visit, they have some kind of insecurity problem and say hurtful things to me (jealousy). I love my life, I’ve been incredibly lucky to have great friends, awesome parents, and a hot/smart/charming fiance. Since my family’s competitive, they try and bring me down. It’s not only my cousins, but my aunts and uncles too.
If they’ve only brought me down my entire life, do I have to invite them to my wedding?
The most recent episode was when my 16 year old cousin cussed me out for something I didn’t do. That was the last straw…even though her mother (who also brings me down AND asked me to have her in the wedidng party as well as have her daughter as a bridesmaid…can you believe it????) says she scolded her, I’ve already made it known that I don’t want the majority of my extended family at my wedding. What do I do? I wish I could run away and have a small wedding with only people that TRULY care about me… ::sigh::
Post # 3
Ugh…I feel your pain sistah Bee… I’ve got a couple of cousins I’d rather not invite either 🙁 Thing is – in my situation, I want to invite my uncle (since he’s my mom’s bro, and they’re close) but yeesh, his offspring is a whole different story.
If you can manage to keep it a small wedding with jsut the closest of closest friends and intermediate family then you can probably “get away” with not inviting your cousins. In my case, we’re having a relatively big wedding, so we’d probably not hear the end of it if we didn’t at least invite my cousins. I’m crossing my fingers that they decline.
The other thing to keep in mind is – don’t invite anyone who’s just going to to go out of their way to ruin your day, no matter who they are! but if you think they can behave themselves and be civil for one day, and if it’ll avoid any complications, than you can invite them!
Post # 4
Ugh, it sounds like you have to invite them and hope they decline. Try to distance yourself from them so they can’t say rude things to you.
Post # 5
I have some family that I didn’t invite. It was pretty much if your not going to make me and my FI feel good on our wedding day, you are not welcome to come. I say don’t invite them.