Invite coworker? …or not?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Inviting Co-Workers???
    Invite only the 1 : (24 votes)
    83 %
    Invite NONE : (5 votes)
    17 %
    Invite all : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    4760 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I said invite the one, but it is hard to vote since i don’t know your relationship with her.  Do you talk about wedding stuff?  Would you hang out outside of work? (maybe you should try that first).

    Post # 4
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    1662 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Invite the one because you want her to come! This will also give you guys something to chat about and maybe spur an outside of work friendship. 

    But keep the wedding talk to a minimum around everyone else so they don’t feel left out. 

    Post # 5
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    60 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @kes18:  I also said invite the 1, but I had to think about it really hard.  I read somewhere (Peggy Post, maybe) that no one (coworkers, acquaintances, etc.) should angle for a wedding invitation and that people should be understanding of the couple’s right to invite whomever they choose.  Not everyone is going to follow this etiquette “rule,” but nevertheless, you are not doing anything wrong or rude by not inviting them; they would be the rude ones if they made a stink about it!  Hopefully they will be understanding. 🙂

     

    Post # 6
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    957 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @kes18:  invite the one lady.  I worked at my current place of employment for about a year and a half when we got married, and I only invited one coworker.  But she’s a coworker I’ve known for 13 years also and the reason I got my position here.  So, while I felt bad that I didn’t invite everyone, no one batted an eye at it, and the lady I’m closest to came.  All was well. 🙂

    Post # 8
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    1090 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I’d invite her, sounds like you want her to come. I’m sure she’d be flattered by the invitation

    Post # 9
    Member
    3249 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Since there’s a clear distinction there, that you actually share an office and spend each day in the same room as her, people should understand and not feel snubbed.  Depends how bitchy everyone else is, though.  You could also just, the week before the wedding, give a general “ceremony only” invite to the office, informally.

    But that only really works for church-type weddings; don’t know what kind you’re having.

    Post # 10
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    635 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @kes18:  I will be inviting only one person from work.  There are about 20 people who I work with, but like you, I am not close to them outside of work.  I say it is your wedding, invite the one.

    Post # 11
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    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I think it’s okay to invite only one person to your wedding.

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