Invite drama

posted 5 months ago in Guests
Post # 2
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45386 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

powerswedding2016 : ” I’m sorry. There must have been a misunderstanding. The invitation was for you. We are unable to accommodate your guest. If this means you will be unable to attend, we will miss you at the wedding.”

Post # 3
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570 posts
Busy bee

julies1949 :  That’s an amazing (and polite response). I need a pocket-sized version of you to tell me what to say in awkward situations all-day, every-day, haha. 

Post # 5
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276 posts
Helper bee

powerswedding2016 :  don’t feel bad and don’t give the option. It’s their fault for not at least asking or clarifying first if they didn’t understand the invite. 

 

Post # 6
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1341 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Ehhh I don’t know, it’s not a random person, it’s his girlfriend.  Would she have met your criteria for “long term relationships” if you knew about her?  I’d try to find the room.

Post # 8
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3025 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

She’s a girlfriend, not a plus one, so she should have been invited in the first place. 

Post # 10
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437 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

carolinabelle : A girlfriend or a boyfriend is a plus 1. I don’t see why OP should invite her when the invitation was explicit.

Post # 11
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6821 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

You shouldn’t invite someone to celebrate your relationship  and not give them the courtesy of recognizing their relationship. The girlfriend should be invited.

Post # 12
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1495 posts
Bumble bee

janvier :  Actually, a plus one can only be given to a truly single guest. A girlfriend/boyfriend should be addressed by name on the invite. 

Post # 13
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3784 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

She should have been invited. Did you check with this person before you sent out invites to see if he was seeing anyone? Sounds like you havent actually spoken to him in at LEAST 4-5 months, and are more than likely just getting family gossip.

Post # 15
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45386 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Some people are so quick to jump on “the girlfriend should have been invited” bandwagon. Given that we know nothing about the cousin (he could be 16) much less the girlfriend, I suggest we don’t have enough information.

powerswedding2016 :  I wouldn’t ask them to pay. Either include her in your guest list or not. You could respond that you will make every attempt to accommodate her after you receive all the rsvp’s from people who were already invited.

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