- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2010
Like many of you, I’ve regularly seen the posts about response cards that have plus ones added, names of people you don’t know written, cards coming back blank, etc. Well in an effort to eliminate these issues, we printed the invited guests names on the response card for our 80 person wedding. It wasn’t that much work, and I really enjoyed doing it.
Did that stop my Aunt P from scratching out my Uncles name and adding her friend whom I’ve never met or heard of? Nope. And neither did my Mom telling her a month ago that she couldn’t do that because if my Uncle couldn’t make it, I was going to invite one of my friends on the b list. So my Mom called her and told her that, again, that wasn’t going to happen because it’s a small wedding and if my uncle isn’t going to be there that I’m going to invite a friend. Apparently she stopped listening after “no” because a few hours later Mom gets a call from my other Aunt S saying that she’ll pay for the friend to come (which of course isn’t the primary issue. The primary issue is space).
Now, all of this is a mild annoyance but it doesn’t anger me. What miffed me a bit was the reason why Aunt S called, which is Aunt P called my 80 year old grandmother (and my namesake) and ripped her a new one. Okay…why? Apparently she thinks that Grandma can put pressure on Mom to invite her friend. Aunt P neglected to realize that I’m the one with the invite power since FI and I are paying for this shindig all on our onesie. I’m guessing that that coupled with the fact that I haven’t seen or heard anything from her in nine years is why she didn’t call me directly. I want to call her, but Mom suggested I hold off and let her handle it which is probably best right now.
Anyhoo, it gets better. Aunt P has a history of whining and throwing a fit until she gets her way, so she plays passive agressive and says fine, she’ll come to the wedding but not the reception (um…they’re the same location). Okay, whatever. Still not worried about it. Then she says she isn’t going to come to the wedding at all but rather will spend the day with her friend (she somehow thinks this is a threat. Again I don’t know her and have only spent a handful of time with her my whole life so I really don’t care. Plus she’s not done anything to endear herself to me, and I don’t want her somewhere she doesn’t want to be). Aunt S offered way back when to pay for half her airfare so she could come to the wedding (they and my Grandma all live in Colorado). So Aunt S tells Aunt P that if she isn’t coming to the wedding, she’s not going to pay for half. Now Aunt P is “thinking about it”. I’m just like, okay, you do that, I’ll be over here on the edge of my seat until you decide .
Truly, I’m pretty apathetic about it but the people around me aren’t so that’s what I have to respond to. I’m not going to invite her friend and that’s the end of it. We’ve offered her a compromise to bring her friend to the rehearsal dinner and it’s up to her to take it. In fact, they’re both going to be in town for a few days. But on the day of my wedding if she decides she’s not going to be there, no one is going to be standing out in the rain begging her to come in. I don’t think she realizes this.
Anyone have a relative like that?