Post # 1
I have a question on what would be considered etiquette for the invititation..
I have a relative whose actual name is Robert but he goes by and everyone calls him Bob. Which should I address him by on the invite?? My guess is that I should use Robert? But I’m definitely not an expert on all of the etiquette rules! Lol
Post # 3
I’d go Bob. That’s what he wants to be called, and a lot of silly etiquette formalities seem useless to me.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
If your invitations are formal, you should use Robert. If, however, your invitations are informal or you know he hates the name Robert (instead of just preferring his nickname), then you can use Bob.
(Keep in mind, the number one rule of etqiuette is not to offend, so if addressing him as Robert would offend him, don’t do it, but if it won’t offend, the formality is generally considered pleasing and nice and an acknowledgement of how seriously you take the act of including this person in your event.)
Post # 5
@ccmoff: I would do “Bob”. If you used “Robert”, it would sound pretentious IMO. It’s not like this is a legal document or something. It’s a summon to a hopefully fun wedding lol.
Post # 6
Bob! Unless i’s a very formal invitation.
Post # 7
It is always most polite to go by the name a person prefers to be called.
Post # 8
I agree with the pp(s). Always use the name the person identifies with. he uses Bob for reason
Post # 9
Thanks for the replies! I appreciate all of your input