Post # 1
As far as our invitations go, we are planning on inviting our friends/family with guests, IF they are married/living together/serious relationships. The only problem is that our Best Man and one of my Bridesdmaids are single…not dating anyone. I think it’s polite to give them the option of a +1, because they are in the wedding pary, but then again I’m not going to pay close to $200 for a stranger to come to my wedding!
Do you agree? Or am I being totally rude?
Post # 3
Yes, I think they should be extended the courtesy of a +1. Chances are, they’re not going to bring someone as they are in the bridal party. I was in a few weddings when I was single or only casually dating someone and I never brought a date as there’s just too much going on that day to have to worry about a date that is not known to anyone else. I just think it’s a bit rude to not invite them with a +1 – you never know what might happen between now and the time of your wedding, they might be in a relationship by then and it would be a bit awkward of them to ask if they could bring their new partner to the wedding.
Post # 4
I think it’s fine to invite them as singles, actually probably better since they’ll be busy with you guys doing wedding party things, and their dates will be left alone feeling pretty awkward. As their +1 won’t know anyone at the wedding, they may feel obligated to “babysit” their guest rather than have fun with you. When I was single I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my friend’s wedding and was not invited with a guest, I preferred it that way, I didn’t have to worry about some guy was a casually dating and just had fun with my best friends.
Post # 5
We only have one person who is single in our wedding party. We gave him a +1 just as a courtesy. He more than likely won’t bring anyone though.
Post # 6
I let all my single BMs know they had a +1 if they wanted it, none of them took me up on it though.
I think it’s nice to extend the courtesy to your bridal party (you could even let them know via word of mouth), especially if they are traveling for you wedding.
Post # 7
I think you should extend and +1 for your bridal party. They are already doing so much for your wedding. Most of the time they don’t bring a guest.
Post # 8
I think you should extend a +1. I gave all my single bridesmaids one however they didnt bring anyone as they were sooo busy that day to worry about someone else.
Post # 10
I think you should give them +1s just in case. If they are single, it would probably be better if they came by themselves so you don’t have to have that awkward “date sitting by themselves and knows no one” while you are doing wedding party stuff. Could they be each other’s dates?? 😉 I think extend it to them and leave it up to them.
Post # 11
We are having a sweetheart table so our Bridal Party +1’s won’t have to sit by themselves during dinner. But to answer your question, yes we are giving our single Bridal Party members a courtesy +1. I don’t think it’s required if they are truly single, but it’s nice to have the option.
Post # 12
I voted to give them a plus one…. but it’s completely your call.
We only had two single bridesmaids and I offered them a plus one but also mentioned several times how we would be doing bridal stuff a good chunk of the time and their dates may get bored or not know what to do with themselves. It is much easier to be a member of a bridal party when you don’t need to worry about entertaining a guest who may or may not know anyone there.
Post # 13
We have one single groomsmen and one with an off/on girlfriend. Everyone else is either married or is very long term relationships. We have talked to both of them and told them that if they want, they can have a +1. I don’t think either of them are taking us up on it though.
Post # 14
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
It’s really up to you. It’s not like they are going to be all alone without a plus one. They’ll be busy. In fact, I’d hate to be the non-SO +1 of a bridal party member because I’d be the one feeling alone and out of place.
You could always wait and see if one of them asks and then extend the courtesy if it’s important to him or her, but you certainly don’t need to offer if you’d rather not.
You can always fall back on etiquette, which dictates that you never, ever invite a true +1 (an unnamed guest left to the discression of the person invited).