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    jennybirdy    June 5, 2010   St. Louis, MO

    My FI just got an email from an old high school friend who just got engaged and asked him for his address for the wedding invite.  He said he hasn't really kept in touch with her and was surprised by the email.  He thinks that we are now obligated to invite her to our wedding.  (our wedding: this June, hers: September)

    I don't think we should invite her, but he thinks that it would be wrong not to.  Thoughts?

     
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    Negative.  One invite does not equal another.  If she wasn't on your list in the first place, you had good reason.  And you aren't obligated to accept her invitation either.

     
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    MissHelen    November 20, 2010   California

    I agree with MightySapphire. And it's very likely that she has a completly different budget than yours if she's able to invite someone from high school that she hasn't kept in touch with.

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    Awkward.  But I still wouldn't invite her.  He's not even that close to her.  The fact that she's inviting him is strange.

     
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    bridegrl    October 9, 2010   Monterey County, California

    If you have the budget to invite her (& a possible guest), then I think its ok. Sometimes friends lose touch but they still mean something. Why make it a big deal?

    If your guest counts needs to stay low then, ok..don't invite her.

    Either way you're not obligated to attend her wedding.

     
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    kierbear24    June 23, 2012   Ontario

    You definitely aren't obligated to. Maybe her family has tons of money and is paying for a large wedding so she's inviting lots of people even though she might not be close to them anymore? But that is obviously a rare occurrence so I don't think she would just expect that you guys could invite anyone and everyone too so I wouldn't worry about not inviting her.

     
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    jennybirdy    June 5, 2010   St. Louis, MO

    Thanks, bees!  It's good to hear your opinions.  I'm going to read your responses to my FI.  Thanks again!

     

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