(Closed) invite font drama….

posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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106 posts
Blushing bee

Aw!  You and your dad both sound so sweet.  Edwardian Script is beautiful, and I think invitations look so nice and pulled-together when they’re all in the same font….it also has the nice effect of making every word just as "fancy" as your names, which to me looks good and humble, as if you two aren’t seeking the font spotlight, you know? 

A single script font throughout is a very classic, elegant, sophisticated, timeless look…..a great look for a wedding invitation!

So, I’m sure the proofs are beautiful.  Your guests will just see a beautiful invitation; they won’t have any idea that you like another font better.  And it’s great that the groom likes it!  

So there’s certainly a lot to be said for talking yourself into loving the invitations as-is.  Maybe your panic was just the "middle-of-the-night thinking" – I’ve had many worries that seemed terrible at night and evaporated by morning.  

On the other hand, though, your dad loves you and is doing this to make you happy…..I’m sure he wants to give you invitations you love and would rather change it if he knew it was causing you this stress.  So there’s nothing at all wrong with asking him for a change, as long as you do it in a sweet way, and of course you would; your message makes it clear that you are a great daughter who is mindful of his feelings.  And, who knows, it might not be _that_ difficult to stop the presses.  There is nothing wrong with making clear what you want, if it is really important to you.  

So there’s not a wrong answer here.  If it were me, I think I would try my best to find a way to love the invitation as-is, for the reasons you state.  And then I think I would incorporate my favorite fonts in some other place, like the rehearsal dinner invitation (if possible), shower invitation (if possible), bridesmaids’ brunch invitation, my own personal correspondence cards, etc. — somehow or another, I would get my "feel script" fix elsewhere.  Life is long — you will have many chances to choose fonts in the upcoming years. 

Sorry about your dilemma — good luck!   🙂

Post # 4
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88 posts
Worker bee

.. it probably <span class=”Apple-style-span” style=”font-style: italic”>is too late if the proof is signed off on.. if your FI likes it, then I say just put it out of your mind and move on to other things. I like the suggestions above about using E. Script as an accent on other pieces and choosing fonts that you love to accompany it. 

it sucks to not have exactly what you want, but i think all members of the hive can relate to having to sacrifice something in some way because of family 🙂

good luck! 

Post # 5
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2293 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I rethought the font and the colors and the layout of my invitations so many times – it was just nuts.  FI was awfully nice about the whole thing, but he pointed out (and he was right) that it really didn’t matter all that much.  I saw lots of examples online of invitations done in a single font, and they were gorgeous – and Edwardian is quite beautiful.  In fact, you are the only one who expects the invitations to be a work of art – you will keep one, and maybe your parents, and your in-laws, and pretty much everybody else is just going to throw them away.  I can’t even find the invitation from my sister’s wedding four years ago – I had to go look in my mom’s scrapbook of the wedding to see what it was like, because I completely didn’t remember.  And I was the MOH. 

Anyway, I would just let it go.  You’re upset and up all night about it because its the thing that’s going on right now.  Whatever font you had chosen, you would probably be second-guessing something about the invites right now.  And next week it will be something else; that’s just how it goes.  The thing to remember is that everything will come together and be just beautiful, and the invitations are going to turn out fine, and people will think they are lovely.  Nobody is going to look at them and wonder why you didn’t use some crazy font they’ve never seen before; nobody (unless you are inviting a bunch of graphic artists or printers to your wedding) is even going to look at the font long enough to recognize it.  It’s easy to lose perspective and make every little detail a huge big deal – just take a deep breath and think how lucky you are to have a dad who is so involved!  I can barely get mine to go look a suits.  Your dad sounds very sweet.  Give him a big hug and thank him.  If you were still in the process of design I might play more with the font, but if the thing is already at the printers I would just let it go.

Post # 6
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244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I second to just let this one go.  These things come in waves. I remember when I was at the invitation phase of wedding planning and obsessivley researching every font known to man. I spent way more hours (days) then was necessary and I know I could have used that time doing something more valuable with my life.  And then that passed and it was on to the new obsession of the week or month and couldn’t believe I cared so much about font.

I could possibly see stopping things if the font was horrible but it really is beautiful! And it seems like your Dad really wants to make you happy. Don’t let something minor ruin such a great gift.

Post # 7
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1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Maybe you can use the font you love for your seating cards or on your program? 

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