(Closed) invite friends that are dating but not living together

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Are you closer with one or the other? If they’re a couple, I’d send one invitation to one of them with both of their names. You can address the possibility of a break-up/plus one if it actually comes up (I wouldn’t plan for that).

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

You are still a ways away from your wedding date, so I would wait to see if they are still together when it is time to send out invitations. If you are friends with both of them, then you should send an individual invitation to each of them.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with spaniel, send one invite to whomever you are closer to with both names on the invite. If you are doing save the dates and they live together then send one, if they live apart send one to each house.   You’ve got about a year till your wedding so invites don’t need to be sent out till about 6-8 weeks before so you have tons of time. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We sent it to the address of the one we were closer to, but addressed the invite to both of them. We figured if they broke up before the wedding they would fill us in on the situation.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

When my FH and I were dating people always sent the invites to me and addressed them to the both of us.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

We sent invites to one person addressed to both.  I really enjoyed having invites to other people’s wedding being addressed to FI and I as a couple (even if it went to his address instead of mine).

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

If I was close with both parties I sent them each an invitation. If there was a couple that I was closer to either the guy or girl and would not invite one party if they broke up then I sent the person I was closer to an invitation with a +1.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We sent 1 invite to the person we knew better/first with both halves of the couple’s names on it.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

if we were close to both of them, ie we’d invite them both regardless of whether they were together, we sent them each an invite. if we were only close to 1, we sent them to that one with both their names on it

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

With my FI and I, usually people just address it to both of us at one address (the address of whomever they are closer to).

But you are MONTHS away from worrying about this. For all you know they could get engaged and get married by the time you have your wedding. I would put this at the bottom of your “things to worry about” list for right now.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I agree with the others- send one invite with both names, or send each person an individual invite. However don’t send each an individual invite with a +1, that’s just strange.  I would be confused if I were them, and wonder if you were trying to invite the couple (2 people) or each member of the couple plus someone else (4 people).  And some people get insulted if you refer to someone’s partner as “guest” when you obviously know that person’s name.  Wait and see what the situation is closer to your wedding date.  Especially since you probably won’t send out invitations for another 9 months or so- a lot can happen then.  People might break up, move in together, get engaged, heck someone could even get married and have their first kid together in that time! 😉

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