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I think the way you phrased it for your sister's shower sounds really good. It gives guests a good reason to skip the wrapping paper, so they're not left wondering why.
As for the pink and black, I would suggest guests wear it, but tread carefully. Maybe "We would be delighted if you take part in our theme and wear black or pink." That way you're being really sweet about it and not demanding at all :). Sounds like it will be a fun time!
Can I be blunt?
If I received a shower invitation from the bride herself
1. asking to buy her a gift
2. telling me not to bother wrapping it so she can open it quicker
3. telling me what to wear
I would politely RSVP 'no'.
thanks for being blunt...i was most concerned about the attire thing...my bridesmaid had thought it'd be cute but i do think that can be alittle obnoxious so i get that...as far as the wrapping i had thought this was doing ppl a favor? perhaps not...i know that the showers ive been to last year and this year so far, it seems like when there is up to 100 ppl or more, the opening of the gifts gets confusing and the ones helping dont even enjoy it. the last shower i was at it took 3 hours to open and display the gifts. in my case, since it's an evening party, i only have a 3 hour limit so i was trying to think of a way to make it easier for others...
typically, the family and friends i have dread the gift opening part. i do think itd be rude to accept gifts and never actually "open" or thank each person when you receive it. just thought that avoiding the wrapping would help everyone all around. i do see what you mean, perhaps someone would be offended(?)
as far as the gifts go- i had wanted to simply do a shower and ask for their presence and the present but that isnt gunna fly. the families my fiance and i come from enjoy giving gifts for occasions and would actually be offended if we didnt register or didnt accept gifts.
thanks for your input! i know ppl can have diff opinions which is why i put this out there. i appreciate your honesty! :)
@ jo.lee...yes it worked great at my sister's and we did still make a line of gifts and had her go through each one so that she could thank those who gave her something. it was also fun bc it showed off different ppl's creativity with the bows :)
i like what you said about the attire. as i just had posted- it could be taken differently which is why i was skeptical and needed bees input! ill keep this wording in mind should we choose to do that! at least it's welcoming their participation but not requiring it! i like that...thanks :)!
@missjayellegee: I think how you worded it is good. You know the people who are getting an invite better than we do so if you think they'd be offended I'd tread lightly. I know my family sounds a lot like yours where giving gifts is exciting for them and I don't think they'd be offended at all. Same goes with asking people to wear a certain color. I know that my family/friends is all about themed parties so they'd love some direction, but if that's not the kind of crowd you're dealing with maybe try word-of-mouth so you can do it on a case-by-case basis (i.e. gently suggest it to grandma, but you can be more blunt to your BFF). Just a suggestion.
thanks @sdrury...great point. its true- the BP especially love the theme idea and so does my mom and aunts. my grandma- just wrapping her head around the fact its not a sunday brunch is hard enough. forget asking her to wear a certain color LOL. and yes totally abuot the gift thing, i know its diff in certain cultures, certain relationships and certain states even- people may vary in their idea of gifting for weddings/engagements. where i live, it gets out of control. not saying i agree or disagree but it is what it is. itd be more awkward if i hadnt registered/or asked for no gifts please. the guests coming get pleasure of out buying and giving to others and to be honest- so do i! i love to buy things for my friends and families, esp for showers. it can be exciting and i like to see their reactions to certain things i get them!
@missjayellegee: Exactly. My family very much believes that the bridal/engagement party is for giving gifts to set the new couple up for their life together. If I suggested a no gifts policy, everyone would either flat out ignore it or throw a fit (or both). Grandma's are tricky people sometimes...on one side of my family I could totally get her to go along with it (maybe not happily but she'll try), but on the other side it would be safer to not even bring it up.
oh yes @ms.meow not by choice lemme say! my list was at 36 until my FMIL gave me the list of who i had to invite from their side...my FI has a huge 'immediate' family and even after trying to scale down the list, we got to 90. you think thats bad? you should have heard our wedding guest list convo and numbers LOL
Love themes!
Not sure if you will care for the rhyming but this could be something fun if you have the room on your invite (It's not quite so 'demanding' I think this way):
Show off your wild side, while we celebrate with the bride. Wear your favorite pink and black, we aren't talking about any old sack!
And lets keep the party green, you really can't wrap a sewing (or washing, your preference) machine. Just tie a bow around your gift and the opening will be so swift!
Obviously you can edit from there... sounds like it will be fun! Or you could forgo the pink/black for all the ladies and just have the bridesmaids be more matchy! But I think most women might think its fun! And now I think its a great idea if you don't want people to use wrapping, if you are ok with it I saw go for it!
@BLUEid...SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO CUTE!!!!!! and i like incorporating it in the wording so then if its overlooked and someone wears something else its no biggie...love the rhyming! AWESOME...thanks SO very much!
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Hi bees!
I am having a cocktail party bridal shower and the theme is hot pink and zebra. I am trying to find a way to write 2 things on the invite:
1. i would rather no gifts to be wrapped. i did this for my sister's shower and wrote something like "go green! skip the wrapping, show off your favorite ribbon instead" since there will be about 90 ppl at the shower and there is a 3 hour limit i didnt wanna take up too much time opening the gifts and it does get kinda chaotic at some showers, ive noticed. i will absolutely still be reading cards/showing the gifts to everyone...
2. a friend had suggested perhaps asking guests to wear black and/or pink. not sure how we can actually ask/suggest that but she thought itd; be cute if i wore white and the guests wore blk and pink. granted, many would wear black anyway so i didnt think it was too farfetched to request but not sure if it's obnoxious to actually put on an invite...what do you think?
any and all thoughts are welcomed.
*also- if you have a cute invitation wording for a shower (cocktail themed or not) do share please!!*
Thanks bees!!!
miss jay