Post # 1
Having destination wedding in Hungary with full reception etc.
Then A month after we get home we want to have a “cocktail party” in my parents back yard to celebrate our marriage with the friends and family that were not able to fly to Budapest.
I am expecting about 30 people from Canada to go to budapest and then for our party i think there will be about 80. Do we send just one invite to everyone that includes ALL details of our wedding so then no one who would have come is not left out, or do you just send out a save the date for your destination wedding and then when you get home send out another invite for the cocktail party?
I just want to save money on postage and the invites. I am leaning more towards sending just one invite so no one is “left out”….
Post # 3
@Summerlengyel87: I think it’s make more sense to do them separately.
Otherwise filling out that RSVP card would probably be confusing. And you’d be asking people to RSVP awfully early for the “at-home” cocktail party since RSVPs would have to come in on the deadline for the wedding abroad.
Post # 4
i had my wedding in Jamaica and then did a BBQ party celebration back home. i sent out invites to everyone for both separately. I sent our wedding invite for Jamaica several months before the wedding. and then a couple of months after our wedding and about a month before the BBQ, i sent out our BBQ invites. The BBQ invites were much cheaper and informal than the wedding ones so i saved money that way, but unfortunately not on postage. i also think it would be confusing to send both together. Unless maybe they are two completely separate invites, but in the same envelope? still like KatNYC2011 said, it would still be very early to send out the cocktail ones…
Post # 5
We’ve recently been weighing options for a wedding, and we’re considering doing a destination wedding/reception with another reception back home. My plan is to handle all of them in the same invitation package. I had a vision in my head and then, lo and behold, I found that someone already created something nearly identical right here on this site. That made me very happy to see it can be done without being overly busy.
For yourself, I think you need to factor in several things. What do your deadlines need to be for RSVPs for your destination events and how does the timing of your at-home event compare? For example, if you need a solid headcount a month before your ceremony, then you need to set your RSVP date a week or more before then. If your at-home event is say another month after you return, then you’re going to be asking people to commit to a backyard party nearly 3 months early. That’s probably pushing a limit on how organized you can expect it to be.
The reason I think we could pull off both with one invitation set is because if we do the destination, I don’t expect we’ll need a hard headcount for the destination until maybe 2-3 weeks out based on our plans to keep it low-key and use highly non-traditional venues. If we go this route, we’ll probably schedule our at-home event to be maybe 2 weeks after our ceremony since the wedding trip would be part honeymoon. So, in reality, we would only be asking people to RSVP to the at-home event just a bit farther out than a “normal” wedding.
Post # 6
We’re having a destination wedding and a larger reception at home as well & I’m definitely sending separate invites. I think it’s less confusing that way.. and like the other posters mentioned, I’m sending out info about the wedding a long time before I’ll be sending save the dates & invites for the at home reception.
Post # 7
Thanks everyone ! I never thought about the confusing factor !!
@msfoxy- are sending everyone invites to your dw and reception? or just the people you want at the wedding are going to get invites?
Post # 8
I had a detination wedding and a reception back home.
We had talked to our families ahead of time to find out who was interesting in coming to the destination wedding. We sent everyone an invite with the reception information, and then added an extra insert for the people coming to the destination wedding.
Post # 9
@ Summerlengyel87 For the Destination Wedding, we’re only inviting about 20 guests. We really want to keep it small and intimate & get a chance to spend time with everyone. For the at home reception, about 150 will be invited… we’re expecting about 120-130 to actually make it. Everyone at the Destination Wedding will also be invited to the AHR.