Post # 1
Well to say I am disappointed in myself is a huge understatement. I just CANNOT believe it! My invites are done being printed and are shipping today and I went onto the website to look at their example one more time and I noticed something. Dinner and Dancing to follow. OMG WHAT?!?!?!?! I hurry up and pull up the proof of my design which I OK’ed after anyalyzing every detail and showing my FI, my mother, his mother and about 5 other friends and there it was NOT on my invite. I have left off any kind of “Dinner and Dancing to follow” or “Reception Immediatley Following”!!!!
HOW DOES THIS HAPPEN?!?!?!?!?! I am just so upset about it. I almost threw up yesterday when I realized my mistake. I can’t pay another $300+ for more invites. I had two ideas and I wanted to know what all of you bees thought.
OPTION 1: Insert a little card saying something cute like “We were so excited to get these to you we forgot to mention to bring your dancing shoes” I don’t mind this but I kind of feel like it’s admitting that I made a mistake! ha
OPTION 2: Since we have a select your entree section on our response card it is somewhat implied that there will be dinner after the ceremony (Ceremony and reception are being held at the same place) so I thought if we inserted a card for guests to make a song request for the reception they would know that there was in fact dinner and dancing. Plus, it would probably be fun for them to hear their request although we wouldn’t be able to put all of them in there.
OPTION 3: Just send them out and not worry about it. Most people that are coming are close family and friends and they already know that there is a reception following.
Sigh, I am just still so upset about this and any advice you have would be appreciated.
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I would either send them out or insert a normal reception card. They used to be the standard, but now we often put the recpetion info on the invitation to save money. You can make them at home or have them printed on business cards at a local office store. Here’s an example: http://www.weddingpaperdivas.com/product/4230/signature_white_textured_reception_cards_floral_watercolor.html
I really think guests are smart enough to realize a dinner selection means that there is dinner and a reception. As long as the location is the same, no big deal.
Post # 4
hm, maybe I’m wrong in this but I usually assume reception and dancing after a wedding these days, especially if you have an entree selection card. I wouldnt worry too much about it. It could be worse… I put the wrong entree selection on my cards and gave a chicken option when I wasnt even serving chicken! I had to fix that one.
Post # 5
I think the meal choice will indicate to them a reception will follow.
Post # 6
Don’t worry over this. While it’s upsetting, it’s really not a big deal. Typically when the reception is at a different location, the invitation includes a separate reception card with the details. Even though your reception is at the same location, you can include a similar reception card with your invites.
Post # 7
I also always assume there will be a reception after the wedding… especially if dinner is mentioned 🙂
Don’t sweat the small stuff!
Post # 8
If it would make you feel better, I like the idea of inserting a little card telling them to bring their dancing shoes. I agree with the others though that people will figure it out without any added message 🙂
Post # 9
have you considered a reception card? years ago, the invites never mentioned anything regarding dinner or dancing, a separate “reception insert” with all of the time and place details was included with the invite in the envelope.
Post # 10
I would go with one of two options:
1. Don’t even worry about it- with the entree option, it’s pretty obvious dinner is to follow. If anyone is confused, they can always ask you or someone else who is going. You can also spread the word to a few friends/family members (“I can’t wait to dance with you at the wedding!” etc.) and I’m sure it will get around.
2. Insert a reception card as mentioned above.
Either of these ideas would be perfectly fine, *and* no one will think either was an error of omission on your part!!!
Post # 11
@mrsSonthebeach: I think the reception card is the best idea 🙂 +1
@OP I wouldn’t assume that everyone knows a reception will follow. I know a LOT of people getting married recently are not having a reception because the cost is just too high. They’re usually going with ceremony only for all guests and then dinner at a family member’s house or resturant after for only the very very close family and it’s usually pay your own way or pot luck for those. If I was invited to a wedding without reception info. I would assume I was only invited to the ceremony and wouldn’t plan to stay longer than that.
While some guests might assume there’s a reception after, I know I would be confused about it. I suppose it also depends on how large your guestlist is though. If it’s a very small number, maybe you could send an e-mail to everyone, or call them to let them know you made a mistake on the invitations and there is a reception after? Whatever you decide to do, I definately think you should let your guests know somehow and don’t assume they’ll figure it out on their own. Good luck! 🙂
ETA: Try not to stress out too much about it! Everyone makes mistakes, and wedding planning can be particularly stressful. There’s a ton of stuff to get done, and nobody will think less of you for leaving something out on the wedding invitations. 😉
Post # 12
Haha, don’t worry about it OP! I’m pretty sure separate reception cards are a popular occurance. I would just add another insert with the reception information (cocktail hour time – if you’re having one, dinner time, location, and any other information they might need). You don’t need to point off that you forgot to put it on the invite.
ETA: I think I would definitely put in a reception card as opposed to not saying anything. This is mostly because guests appreciate a timeline of things and will want to know when the reception starts and when dinner is served. If there is going to be a large gap, they will want to know so they don’t stand around for hours waiting for something. Or will know to grab a snack if it’s going to be a long time towards dinner. I actually went to a wedding where the timeline did not match what was on the insert and I was super confused and very hungry and not happy.
Post # 13
I assume that there’s a dinner/dancing reception unless stated otherwise. I think you’re fine. Maybe word of mouth that there’s dancing, if you’re concerned.
Post # 14
I agree w/ PPs – I don’t think you have much to worry about! You’re having them pick their dinner selection, I think no one is going to notice that you didn’t write “dinner and dancing to follow” especially with the dinner selection.
I do think it’s a cute idea to have them pick some songs – as long as you get a final say in the song playing!
Post # 15
I also agree that a timeline, indicating what time dinner will be served can be quite helpful. Especially if you have any guests that have medical issues. Some guests require food at regular intervals, some guests might need to take medication x amount of time before they eat, some need to take meds with food, etc. Just to be on the safe side, I would let everyone know that 1)there is a reception with dinner 2)what time dinner will be served and 3)where the reception is located. Even if the reception is at the same place as the ceremony, I would still point it out just so there’s no confusion. Again though, I think the most important thing is to not get too worked up over it. It happens, no big deal. 🙂