Invite out of state FILs to shower?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1002 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

My bridal shower will be out of state and I plan in inviting FILs. They may not come but I felt it was best if they be included

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would invite them, they’ll be happy to at least receive an invitation and know they were thought of and you wanted them to be there

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I have some out of state friends invited to my shower, and I have been invited to showers out of state.  Usually it’s understood that you’re not expected to come.  More of less just inviting them as a show that you thought of them, and if they happen to be in town would be happy to have them.  It’s basically saying  “wish you were here”.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think an invite should be seen more as a “We want you to be there,” than a summons.  Thats why I’m sending to out of state guests who I doubt will come.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I have this problem too… bridal shower will be in Indiana.. one of my bm’s and FMIL live in California… obviously, there really isn’t a chance they can make it, but I’ll be sending the invite anyway!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church

@Soon2BeMrsS:  I would invite them, but specifically let them know that you understand that it’s a long trip, and you don’t expect them to make it, but that you wanted to make sure they know that you love them and would love to have them there.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Soon2BeMrsS:  I would invite all immediate family regardless of if they are out of state or not but I wouldn’t invite aunts/uncles out of state. I didn’t invite any out of state extended family so it wouldn’t seem gift grabby since I know they couldn’t attend. 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Soon2BeMrsS:  We invited them because I wanted them to feel included even though I knew they wouldn’t be able to come.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I invited them. My MIL and GMIL made the trip and were there.

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