Post # 1
We go to a very large church (2500+) and therefore don’t know the pastor who is marrying us very well. I have met him about four times (plus rehersal and wedding) and like him very much, but don’t know him personally. Do we need to invite him to the reception? We’re a little tight for space (have 171 RSVPed yes in a space for 200, waiting on 50), but could totally make room. I don’t want to commit an ettiquette faux pas.
Post # 3
@red_pepper_gal: If you don’t know him well, he will most likely appreciate the gesture and decline.
Post # 4
In my area most people invite the paster/reverend/priest to dinner. I don’t think it’s necessarily expected though. If you end up having enough space to invite him that would be the more polite thing to do. Like PP said he may consider it a gracious offer and decline. If you don’t want to try and move people around to make space I would just make an extra nice donation to the church (if you are not doing so already anyway).
Post # 5
I don’t think this is typical, at least not in my area, especially if your pastor or church is collecting a fee. If they are doing it gratis because you are a member of the church, a donation or an invitation to dinner might be a nice gesture, though.
My fiance and I are inviting our officiant to dinner, but that’s because he’s a friend being ordained for the specific purpose of marrying us!
Post # 6
I would definetly invite him to the reception. As PP said, he will likely decline, but at least the invitation is out there for him.
Post # 7
In my part of Canada (Ontario)… it is definitely what one does if it is your regular or family church / place of worship
Would be considered bad Etiquette here not to (and normally an Invite is extended to their Spouce as well)
(No need to invite an Officiant though when doing an Elopement or Destination Wedding)
In my experience, either the Officiant will graciously decline (they get a lot of such invites)… or if they do come, they’ll excuse themselves shortly after the Dinner portion is over… they tend to not want to be around for the more “familial” (double-meaning intended) events.