- 9 years ago
I have a really long time before I have to send out invitations, but today I got a beautiful invitation from a co-worker, and it got me thinking. I know if everything is traditional and the bride’s parents are paying, the wording is "Mr. and Mrs. Brides Parents invite you to the marriage of their daughter …" blah blah blah. My parents and my fiance and I are paying for our wedding … mostly. My fiance’s uncle is a graphic designer, and he said he would do our invitations as our wedding present. (Yay for custom invites!) Well I guess there are some additional costs that he discussed with my FMIL, and so my fiance’s family is covering those extra costs. Additionally, I thought since both families and my fiance and I have a stake in the wedding photos, that would be a good cost to split so we can afford really good ones. So in addition to the miscellaneous invite costs (I have no idea what these are, by the way. I thought it was all taken care of until my fiance surprised me with it last week …), my fiance’s parents are paying for 1/3 the cost of the photographer.
So, having said all that, do we include their names on our invitation as hosts? I kinda feel like we should since they are contributing financially to the wedding. I think though, and I can see this side too, that my mom will be upset about including their name since my parents are paying for all the actual wedding/reception costs.
Anyway, what do you think bees? Does any sort of financial contribution equal a promotion to host and hostess?